Suprise from FMIL is throwing off my whole "day of" plan!
Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:21 AM
I would LOVE to hire two more people to help out, but my inlaws are paying for the entire wedding, so every additional thing is coming out of their pocket. I don't think I could tell my FMIL that she needs to hire 2 morepeople on top of what she is already spending. The money thing has been a really touchy issue for me throughout this whole planning process, bc as much as I love my inlaws, I cant talk to them the way I would with my own parents. I was thinking of paying for 2 more girls myself, but then I think FMIL might be offended... as if what she did wasn't good enough
The other thing is, all the family that would be getting done is from FI's side (except for my mom). That means I would basically be telling FMIL that my bridesmaids are more important than her sister and mother. I talked to FI about it, and he agrees with me that the bridal party is more of a priority, but how do I say that to his mother?!?!
I would just hate it if my BM's felt like they HAD to get their hair and makeup done at 9am to make me happy... if it was me, I would rather not get it done at all. I mean, who wants to worry about melting makeup all freakin day long!
Everytime i think about this it makes me want to go:
Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:24 AM
~ Jaime & Martin ~
"Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"
We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!
We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!
Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:32 AM
Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:36 AM
Not knowing any of you guys but always being one to give the benefit of the doubt, I'm thinking that maybe your FMIL did this to be a postivie treat and has no idea that in actually it is really more of a logistical nightmare than anything. Maybe him talking to her could help?
Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:56 AM
Sorry to repeatedly vent about this... I know this isnt a HUGE deal compared to some other problems girls here face, but I just finished my "day of" schedule for the girls... it included pool/beach time, a brunch, etc...
Posted 14 March 2008 - 12:44 PM
Posted 14 March 2008 - 12:55 PM
Posted 14 March 2008 - 12:57 PM
If you approach it this way, you are solving the problem, but making her aware of it.
Posted 14 March 2008 - 01:01 PM
That would make the process very simple for you - and your bridesmaids could choose whether or not they want to take advantage of the generous offer. They have the ability to decide if the time would inconveniece them or not.
Posted 14 March 2008 - 01:05 PM
why don't you tell FMIL a semi-truth?
tell her that you are so excited about the makeup and so are the BM's but b/c there are so many of them, they don't want to start getting ready that early in the AM so they are going to go to the Spa to get make up done.
tell her you are sad about this and you were thinking you and FI could pick up the cost to bring 2 girls from the SPA over to make it easier on the make up artists and so that everyone could get done in a more reasonable window of time
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