Guilt over bridesmaids
Posted 13 March 2008 - 11:05 AM
Posted 13 March 2008 - 11:39 AM
Have you also talked to her about this? Maybe it doesn't bother her and never even crossed her mind. My friend through me a bachelorette party and my MOH didn't even care. One less thing on her plate, you know? SHe just got to show up and enjoy herself like everone else.
Posted 13 March 2008 - 11:44 AM
Who can throw a Bridal Shower?
Traditionally, bridal shower etiquette says that close family members of the bride (sisters and moms) are not supposed to throw a shower for the bride. But, for many brides, there simply is no one else who can or is willing to do it. Therefore, anyone who wants to throw a shower can, bearing in mind that if there are plenty of people who would like to throw a shower for the bride, then the mother and sisters should take a backseat. Bridesmaids do traditionally throw the bride a shower.
Your friends probably want to share in your wedding, but since they can;t make it this is the best way for them to honor you. You have great friends! Let them celebrate you!!!
Posted 13 March 2008 - 12:21 PM
Posted 13 March 2008 - 12:29 PM
I think it's nice to spread the jobs/ fun stuff around. These girls asked if I'd like them to do it & I was excited.
So I don't think traditional roles really matter. Just do what works for your group.
the time I threw the bach party, it was because the MOH was her sister & all the rest of the BMs were friends. Her sister didn't really know us all so it made more sense for me to throw the bach party. She hosted the shower. I imagine it was good for her. She had so many other wedding responsibilities that it was probably a relief to not have to mess with the party. It was great for me because it was all I was planning so I got really creative with it. The other BMs pitched by bringing alcohol & snacks. it was so easy & we had a great time.
Posted 13 March 2008 - 12:30 PM
Posted 13 March 2008 - 12:33 PM
Posted 13 March 2008 - 12:40 PM
Just think, in reality, all 'tradition' went out the window when you started planning a destination wedding!
Update: I just read your latest post. That solidifies my tradition out the window comment! But whose to say what tradition really is. Everyone can define it their own way. And why not start a new 'tradition' :~)
Posted 13 March 2008 - 12:51 PM
As far as gifts, for bridesmaids i was going to gift them with something like Tiffany passport covers ( I adore these although they are a little pricey).
Maybe you can get them something that reflects Jamaica...like tropical pedicures together at a nearby nail salon that you all can enjoy together and relax...
Posted 13 March 2008 - 12:53 PM
Tiffany & Co. | Item | Tiffany Blue® patent leather passport cover. | United States
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