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Can I disown my mother in law?

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Whatever you do, DON'T elope!! You will regret it forever.

 

This is YOUR wedding to do what YOU want.

 

Is she paying for anything? Nope? Then she has no say. Let HER plan an AHR (at her expense!) after you get back if she feels that strongly about it.

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Originally Posted by jean-marcus View Post
there is actually a form you can sign at the court house that will legally force her to stop being rude and annoying and pretty much force her to shut the F*** up. just got there and ask for the MIL-3030.
MIL 3030 is all about rifles and cartridges (sorry, I work for a defence company)....

probably appropriate considering how rude the MILs are being

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Ok- since your MIL is being so miserable, I would seriously just stop talking to her. If FI doesn't care if she's there, then oh well- let her wallow in her own misery. She will regret not going and being such an ass.

 

From my own experience and from what I have read on this forum, people try to manipulate you by scaring you to think that no one will go. So as brides, we get all panicky and wonder if we made the right decision. You have talked to people and they have said they are going- who cares what your MIL says then. She's obviously just trying to manipulate you to do what she wants. Oldest trick in the book.

 

Have the wedding of your dreams. Just make sure your FI is comfortable not having his mom coming to the wedding if that's the route she chooses. If you are both ok, move on. Have a wonderful wedding!

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WHAT no suits, just kidding!

 

I'm sorry that your fmil is being such a PITA. Obiviously since she lives in DC and you chicago someone was going to have travel anyway so i dont' see what the big deal is about having to go to Mexico. It's a vacation. Some people you can never make happy.

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I've always been curious as to why ANYONE would think they have a say in someone else's wedding planinghuh.gif?? I'm so confused by this. I'm sorry, who's wedding is ithuh.gif

 

Tell her that this is the wedding you're doing and you're not sure why she thinks she has a say in it. If she doesn't want to come, you're very sorry but you respect her decision and if she wants, you can show her the pictures when you get them back.

 

Just stay calm and cool - don't let her bully you into anything.

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gun.gif haha.. I wouldn't stop my wedding plans for her.. I would continue to do what you were doing because this is your day and your fi day.. Tell her not to go and have everyone else still come because I wouldn't want the drama at the wedding on your special day. INGORE her . I know that is hard to do but if she has nothing positive to say then don't speak to her and let her know why you are not going to put up with her none sense

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I agree that you will regret an elopement if it is prompted by someone's negative attitude. I say stop accpeting her phone calls. If you do takl to her and she starts up, stop her and tell her:

 

We have a clear vision of what our wedding will be

We will not listen to your negative comments

If you are uncomfortable with this, you do not have to be a part of it.

 

Unless she's paying for it tell her to hit the road.

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From my own experience and from what I have read on this forum, people try to manipulate you by scaring you to think that no one will go. So as brides, we get all panicky and wonder if we made the right decision. You have talked to people and they have said they are going- who cares what your MIL says then. She's obviously just trying to manipulate you to do what she wants. Oldest trick in the book.
hahaha....so true!

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