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#51 nde062010

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    Posted 13 March 2008 - 04:59 PM

    Ugh .. I'm so sorry to hear that!

    I'm sure it will all work out and you'll be able to look back on this wedding with nothing but good memories!

    I haven't booked my wedding yet, but maybe I will wait until after they decide to come to ask them to be in it ... so they won't feel obligated. I would rather only have two on my side, but the fiance wants his whole crew of 5! oh boy .... I see stress ahead of me

    #52 Debs

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      Posted 13 March 2008 - 05:37 PM

      Don't worry about boys/girls matching.

      Good photogs will be able to work with it and make it happen

      #53 abileneway

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        Posted 17 March 2008 - 11:51 AM

        Originally Posted by Morgan
        I decided not to have a wedding party just to avoid any potential stress. I'm so glad I did. It's so much easier to only have to worry about yourself.
        I did the same thing. It's much easier to only focus on you and your FI! No hassles with others attire or travel plans. You have enough to do without having to deal with the extra stress.

        #54 superez

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          Posted 22 March 2008 - 01:32 PM

          I'm so sorry about all this unnecessary drama, but actually this is going to be for the best! I am not having a bridal party and seriously it's one less to have to worry about! Initially we thought of inviting FI's best friend and my bf to be our BM and MOH, but FI's best friend is falling off the wagon again and he and his wife argue at the drop of the hat in front of anyone and everyone, and I didn't want that drama at my small wedding! (6 family guests, that's it). Then my best friend just had a baby and her hubby is out of work, so in a nutshell it just made sense to be without a party at our DW. They will be our witnesses when we get married legally here after we come back, so they will still be a part of the celebration and our AHR afterward.

          Don't worry, it'll all be fine and you're not alone!!!

          #55 beachbride08

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            Posted 22 March 2008 - 01:45 PM

            I think you did the right thing.

            #56 tlomlad

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              Posted 22 March 2008 - 02:10 PM

              kendra, im sorry to hear that but i agree with you... its your wedding day and it should be filled with bliss not bm & gm making you somehow feel guilty for having the wedding of your dreams

              #57 michelle08

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                Posted 22 March 2008 - 02:13 PM

                I think you made a great choice...you shouldn't deal w/ the stress...

                #58 Dez921714

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                  Posted 22 March 2008 - 02:32 PM

                  Wow *HUG* Sorry you had to go throguh that!!! Good for you for sticking up for yourself! It's seriously not worth the stress!!

                  It's actually one of the things I'm afraid of. We were planning a local wedding when I lost my job and then decided to do a destination wedding (what we have saved already can cover it). We had already asked our bridal party (7 girls 7 guys). So when we told them we changed plans, we told them all the same thing "we still want you to be in it if you can, but if you can't afford to be in it and come, we would rather you be there. If you can't afford to be in it or to come, we 100% understand"

                  So far everyone says they're coming (2 guys are iffy)...we'll see who actually buys a dress and books when it comes down to it...
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                  #59 tvt

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                    Posted 22 March 2008 - 02:37 PM

                    I think what you did is so great. It's a sucky situation, but good for you for standing up for youself and putting those butt's in their right place.

                    We're waiting to see who RSVPs before we even begin to ask people, but I'm not sure that going this route is going to eliminate any of the crap. We'll see

                    #60 Hartyt509

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                      Posted 22 March 2008 - 04:49 PM

                      Good for you for sticking to your guns.

                      I'm having no BM or GM and if I had my way it would be just me and the FI! lol but he wants to invite his friends and the dreaded FMIL with her new hubby(long story!!) lol

                      So in a nutshell I'm dreading it because as soon as she finds out she is going to start bitching about wanting this and that and I, unfortunately, have no tact lmao and will tell her to lmao

                      So I know how you feel and I'm proud of you for ditching the party, we are having a small reception but only cause that is already in the package then i'm going jet skiing and they can do what they want lmao

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