I let go of my wedding party...

[Celina]

Wow...I haven't read this whole thread but way to go for standing up to them!

 

Sometimes people are so inconsiderate in the things they say. They don't think of your feelings at all. Good for you for saying thanks but no thanks!

[Debs]

Yup Yup!! Sorry for what you are going through, it surely sucks!

 

I was one of those 'wait to see who books' people, and honestly, no one BM-worthy has booked, so I will be walking myself down the isle, with a friend's 3 year old daughter as a flower girl. That's it. Chris is having one friend beside him. Another friend might book at the last minute, but I don't even know if he'll stand beside him or not.

 

Really, we have like 12 people coming. What's the point if half of them are walking down the isle or standing beside the groom? Have them sitting in chairs, with a margarita. Them being there is special enough.

 

IMO.

[Maura]

Kendra, you know what?

 

You are totally one of my DW heroes for what you did. It sucks what they are doing but, sometimes you just have to say , pull out your and tell yourself that youre going to have a fabulous time anyway without those schmucks.

 

because honestly, its not worth feeling like and and every freaking day that you plan your wedding. its just not! so props to you!

[DLyteful]

Im sorry hear that you have had to let your wedding party go. Maybe you can sit them down and just tell them whats up.

 

I am a "wait and see who booked" girl. And thankfully my best friend booked. But my sisters might not be able to go... my honey and I were totally ready to not have a wedding party. The DW is suppose to be stress free so just go with the flow. I'm sure eveything will turn out for the best and your friends will either tell you the are able to make it or not.

[S2BLennon]

You go girl, it is about you and this way your true friends will figure out the $ and you will see everyones true colors. You only want people who are truely going to appreciate your wedding day there anyway! Even if you thought they were your closest buds!

[logorman]

That is really poor of your wedding party to be complaining. If they had issues with cost they shouldn't have accepted the invitation to participate or they should have talked to you about it privately.

 

You did the right thing by letting them go because the wedding is all about the bride and groom. The attendants are there to help you out, not stress you out.

 

Don't feel bad about what you did because you have enough to take care of. If they come around then ok but if they don't you will have a fantastic time no matter what.

 

Congratulations and enjoy the whole marriage experience.

[newfiebride]

Oh, how I wish I decided not to have a wedding party as well...

 

We're only having a small one but it started as my sis as MOH and his best friend as best man. Then his sis complained b/c she wasn't a part of the wedding party b/c she was his only sibling so we added her on and another friend as a groomsmen. THen the best man bailed so we moved up the groomsman as best man and now he has just informed us that he can't go either so we are moving his sis from bridesmaid to best woman...oh my... and with only 5 weeks left to go...

[Debs]

Excellent use of smilies!!! I LMAO!

 

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Originally Posted by mauraw Kendra, you know what?   You are totally one of my DW heroes for what you did. It sucks what they are doing but, sometimes you just have to say , pull out your and tell yourself that youre going to have a fabulous time anyway without those schmucks.   because honestly, its not worth feeling like and and every freaking day that you plan your wedding. its just not! so props to you!

[DreamsDreamer]

This is one of those "find out who your true friends are" moments. My FI and I decided from day one to not have a wedding party because of this exact reason. We thought it might be best to give people their own option of seeing if it was worth it to come out for our wedding. Because we didn't want ANYONE, I repeat, ANYONE to be there who is going to complain. We don't want to hear one complaint that week. So my mom is going to stand up with me and my FI's brother is going to stand up for him and that's it. Everyone else will be a willing guest. I know it sucks, but keeping it simple is one of the most wonderful things that you can do when having a DW.

Don't feel sad! Feel happy!! You are going to have the people that mean the most to you there! No Drama!

[vale]

I think you did the right thing. The less stress the better.

 

I'm with a lot of others and am waiting to see if anyone comes, I realise it is expensive for people. My three daughters are bridesmaid and we are paying for them so they definitely are coming. At the moment FI doesn't have a best man, still waiting for him to book and were not sure about witnesses as you can't have blood relatives so that puts our chilrden out (two will be 18,17, so over here, they could have been witnesses) we will wait and see, I'm just looking forward to getting married :-)