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#1 Denise40

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    Posted 09 March 2008 - 11:07 PM

    Originally there were just going to be 6 of us going to Cabo to celebrate our vow renewal, dh, myself, my son and daughter and their SO. I already ordered the dresses for the girls and getting ready to order the shirts for the guys. Now my nephew wants to come and he will be bringing along his SO. I don't mind at all about my nephew, because, he was our ring bearer in our original wedding 25 years ago (he was 5 then) and he states he wants to be the ring bearer again, lol. That's not the problem. He will pay his way for the 2 of them, but, it's his gf. I don't know her at all but I feel like she will be left out during the ceremony, not that it's going to last all that long. I just don't feel right having her a part of the ceremony. Am I being mean?? We are not going to have any chairs because no one else will be there to observe, they are all in the ceremony. What do I do? I can add 2 more to dinner. I rented a vehicle to drive us around that evening, but it only fits 7.

    I don't know what to do. I new it was going to smooth for me. Now I am


    #2 luv2love

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      Posted 09 March 2008 - 11:29 PM

      ooo...that's a hard one. Maybe give her a position like photographer or videographer (if you aren't getting a professional). As far as transportation goes....well....hmmm...hopefully another forum member can help you out there!

      #3 JHarwood2Be

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        Posted 09 March 2008 - 11:31 PM

        That's a tough one! I agree that you don't have to make her part of the ceremony. Maybe she can stand off to the side? Hopefully someone will have some advice for you.
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        #4 Yari

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          Posted 09 March 2008 - 11:35 PM

          I don't think she will be hurt if she is not part of the ceremony. As for the car rental, maybe you will need to get two cars.

          #5 nikkianddean

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            Posted 09 March 2008 - 11:42 PM

            What a dilemma!! You are comepletely reasonable to include only people you want in your ceremony. Is there a larger vehicle available for you to rent? Woud the nephew and GF mind cabbing it?

            If you don't have a photographer or videographer the earlier suggestion to ask her to fill this role would be very cute! She will have a role to play without being "in in the ceremony." I am sure she will be excited to take any part of it and she might pick up anew hobby! Good luck.

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            #6 dmarie17

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              Posted 09 March 2008 - 11:43 PM

              Maybe you should explain the situation to your nephew and see what he says. The gf probably doesn't expect to be part of the ceremony but your nephew should at least give her the heads up that she'll be only in the audience. As for the vehicles, have you tried calling the place to see if they have anything larger? You may have to pay a bit more, but i think it would be more special if you were all together than if you split into two cars. Maybe she's really tiny and can just sit on your nephew's lap!! :)
              Keep us posted on what you decide. Good luck!

              #7 BarefootBride

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                Posted 10 March 2008 - 07:42 AM

                Oh... well sounds mean but theres no room for her in the car!! So I guess she should stay home! ;p I wouldnt worry about her coming to the ceremony. It might be nice for her to be around taking photos.... but the car thing.... I dont know.

                #8 thomastaci22

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                  Posted 10 March 2008 - 07:52 AM

                  I would be surprised if she expected to be part of the ceremony. I agree with having her take pictures or videotape. That way, she isn't in the pictures or video if something happens and they break up!! That was mean. But seriously, I don't see any reason why you need to have her as a part of the ceremony itself. As for the car, I would call to see if there was another option and if not, explain to your nephew that there is only room for 7...maybe they can rent their own car? Or hop in a cab or bus??

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