MOH drama

[Betsy]

I agree with taking her to lunch and talking it over with her. My sister is my MOH and I have happily done everything so far but I was concerned b/c no one had said anything about a bachelorette party! I know kinda dumb but I really wanted to have one - So I just called my sis and just asked her and she felt SOOO bad that she hadn't done anything yet! I think she just needed a friendly reminder - and hopefully that is all your MOH needs too! Good luck!

[DanielleNDerek]

Do you think it's because it's wedding related and since she called off her engagement she has a hard time helping you with your wedding things? Maybe she still has some feelings about calling off her wedding.

[LadyCheese]

I'm so late in replying to you Danielle, LOL...but now that issues are arising again I remember I had posted a thread about my MOH already & I found my original post. To answer your question, I dont know if it has to with her previous engagement or not but Ive been asked the same questions by another friend and FI. I guess I want to think that its not that but I wont know for sure.

 

However I wish I wouldve taken ya'll advice and sat down to talk to her but the day she finally came to get her fitting she brought along her new boyfriend (who happens to be one of her exes whom I have met a few times before but anyway she feels like she has to show up with him to everything and it doesnt give me a chance to speak to her in private). So we never had the opportunity to talk one on one. But she's been acting the same way again...she made an effort a few weeks ago and sent all the BMs an email to finally introduce herself (to the 2 BMs who dont know her) and that was great. Over 2 wks ago I sent her an email, (and texted her and left her messages on her cell) just to inquire when she plans on putting her deposit bc TA was asking...she had told me she would take care if a while back but of course that never happened. I saw she opened her email on 4/4 but she never had the courtesy to reply to me or call me and let me know whats going on. So this past Saturday she left on a cruise (which was planned several months ago) and she'll be back in a couple days...in the meantime another BM stepped up and offered to help me with anything I may need. SO I asked if she could call a different BM and see when she plans on getting fitted, etc. I'm just exhausted lately from all the thinking, that its draining me....I need to talk to my MOH but I refuse to contact her again, she needs to make the time for me if she really cares, then I need to call my BF who hasnt been fitted & said she would put a deposit on her dress a long time ago & still hasnt...my friend called her and left her a message and she hasnt even returned her call (I hate when people do that!). so this morning I sent a text to her (and I copied MOH, dont knwo what for) and stated that this friend will be helping me call the BMs and keep track of certain things, "pls be curtious and call HER back"...I dont think that was mean or rude, was it?? This is annoying. I'm about to go bridezilla on someone.

 

I know I just rambled and went on and on, so sorry....I'm taking a deep breath now and I will try to put this out of mind for the rest of the week and see who calls me or rather who DOESNT call me. and then I'll take it from there. Thx again for listening.

[BarefootBride]

Traditionally MOHs did a lot of these things but nowadays most of them are too busy to be interested in weddings and they just show up and fix your dress at the alter. if you are lucky they throw you a bachelorette party or something. Thats it. I think you should reconsider any traditional expectations that go beyond showing up and throwing a party or too. You might find yourself stressed and upset. Since you seem to be organized do the organizing stuff yourself or hire a wedding planner if you can afford it. MOH might not come through the way you want her to.

[LadyCheese]

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Originally Posted by BarefootBride Traditionally MOHs did a lot of these things but nowadays most of them are too busy to be interested in weddings and they just show up and fix your dress at the alter. if you are lucky they throw you a bachelorette party or something. Thats it. I think you should reconsider any traditional expectations that go beyond showing up and throwing a party or too. You might find yourself stressed and upset. Since you seem to be organized do the organizing stuff yourself or hire a wedding planner if you can afford it. MOH might not come through the way you want her to.

yeah thats funny bc when I was her MOH last year she expect me to do several "traditional" things that MOH were expected to do and I happily obliged. But oh well, that just goes to show. But you are right, I am very organized and Ive been holding up just fine...I'm not even going to expect much from her at this point. I just needed to vent thats all.