| Originally Posted by Stormsong |
I read in a wedding book that you should invite everyone to a DW wedding, even if they can't go. If they are someone you would invite to a reception party for when you come back, then you should also invite them to the DW wedding. Its considered polite. The theoy is, people just like to be included....and invited, even if they have no plans on making it.
What if you want a small wedding and dont want all guests there since you want to have an intimate wedding, this method of etiquette is not going to work. If you invite for example: 200 guests but then end up with 100 replies, that might be way more than the 50 you originally budgeted for and planned everything for. I think if you want a small wedding, you just have to make a cut, some are just not going to be invited to the DW but will be to your reception party when you return home. I know it might hurt some people s feelings but not everyone can make everything. You cant please everyone anyhow. You can just hope they will be understanding. This has been an ongoing family discussion for me as well. I believe there are other threads that discuss issues like this.