Premarital counseling?

[Golden]

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Originally Posted by twelve_piece Just curious if anyone is doing religious pre-marital counseling if you are not an active member of a church? FI and I were both raised in the church and have very strong faith but since niether of us live near the churches we were raised in we don't really go anywhere on a regular basis. We have been together for almost 8 years so there doesn't seem to be many things left that haven't been discussed and we are extremely open with each other so it's not like I feel like we absolutley have to get counseling but I don't think it can hurt. I know there are non-church counseling options, but I don't want to do that. Just wondering what other people are doing....

I think you are in great area the ATL to locate a church for pre-marital counseling. You have options for a group session and private. Start with friends or family to refer you to someone. My FI have done group premarital and private session at our church in Dallas. I highly suggest pre-marital counseling. Good Luck

[Agape Gems]

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Originally Posted by kendra I think you are in great area the ATL to locate a church for pre-marital counseling. You have options for a group session and private. Start with friends or family to refer you to someone. My FI have done group premarital and private session at our church in Dallas. I highly suggest pre-marital counseling. Good Luck

FI and I talked about it last night and we are going to see what we can find. I'll let ya'll know how it turns out

[Betsy]

A little late in the post but we didn't do pre-marital counseling but we did have to meet with a sponser couple prior to our wedding. We are actually going right now and it has been awesome. I think it is great to hear another couples point of view and it has been a great experience so far! Good Luck!

[Agape Gems]

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Originally Posted by Betsy A little late in the post but we didn't do pre-marital counseling but we did have to meet with a sponser couple prior to our wedding. We are actually going right now and it has been awesome. I think it is great to hear another couples point of view and it has been a great experience so far! Good Luck!

How does a sponsor couple work? I've never heard of that.

[Betsy]

It is through our church - sorry I forgot to mention that - Our priest set it up for us - it is very non structured and totally relaxed atmosphere. I know you said you were doing something that doesn't necesarily deal with a church but it is a really awesome thing - I mean we get input from our friends on certain things but they are always one-sided kind of - like either they are FI's friends or mine - so this way it is a 3rd party point of view ya know??

[starchild]

I'm super late but I think premarital counseling is something you will do and never forget. I was with FI for 8 years when we did ours and we still learned new things, it surprised the hell out of us! Made us laugh, made us cry. I wrote more about it in the Catholic counseling thread but basically it is a beautiful thing to learn that after so many years you can still grow as a couple.

 

We both were apprehensive because we aren't religious (but spiritual) but the place we went was very liberal so there was no down-talk or holier-than-thou stuff going on. Find a place you like and do it..then let us know what you think

[Agape Gems]

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Originally Posted by Betsy It is through our church - sorry I forgot to mention that - Our priest set it up for us - it is very non structured and totally relaxed atmosphere. I know you said you were doing something that doesn't necesarily deal with a church but it is a really awesome thing - I mean we get input from our friends on certain things but they are always one-sided kind of - like either they are FI's friends or mine - so this way it is a 3rd party point of view ya know??

Very cool. We actually make it point not to get advice or input from our family and friends b/c like you said, it's always one-sided, so a 3rd party that's totally neutral would be great. I would prefer to do something thru a church it's just that both of our churches are an hour away and we both work a 9-5 and have our own businesses on the side so our free time is very limited. We are definitely going to see what we can find though.

[Agape Gems]

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Originally Posted by starchild I'm super late but I think premarital counseling is something you will do and never forget. I was with FI for 8 years when we did ours and we still learned new things, it surprised the hell out of us! Made us laugh, made us cry. I wrote more about it in the Catholic counseling thread ...

I'm going to check out that thread right now, thanks!