| Originally Posted by amyh |
IMHO, if I went to a DW that didn't have some sort of reception/gathering/party, I'd be a little annoyed.
| Originally Posted by twelve_piece |
IMHO, if you really just want to have the ceremony then why not just the 2 of you go and get married then have your at home reception and show a video, pics, etc?
I'm surprising myself by agreeing with this line of thinking. You know I'm not one for tradition or doing things to impress/please others so this is weird for me..lol
I went to a wedding in Vegas last year, about 30 people. They sent out formal invitations and everything. After the ceremony was over, the bride says to meet at the Paris buffet. Okay, fine. We get there and the line is super long, we go to the door to say we are with the wedding party and they're like "What?"...we assumed there was a reservation/set-up/something. Nada. Inside we see the couple & their families eating and after standing in line for 25 minutes, we left.
It sucked that we spent 4 hours to get to the wedding and the 15 minute ceremony was it. We actually gave the wedding gift to her brother who passed us in line to use the restroom, saying bring this to Jen and tell her sorry we couldn't get in. I thought it sucked that they didn't at least make reservations somewhere we could all be together, we didn't mind having to pay for ourselves but it was the fact that they pumped up coming to their DW then didn't think past the ceremony.
| Originally Posted by Morgan |
Then we'll have dinner in a hotel restaurant. I imagine many guests will head to their rooms after that. We have some older guests who are in bed by 8pm. I know the rest of us can find something to do to have a great time that night.
I don't think any of them will look back at our wedding & wish they stayed home because it wasn't worth a trip.
Of course nobody will think it wasn't worth the trip unless you know some evil-ass people, but I think you may underestimate your guests. They are on vacation for starters, so for some people bedtime/routine goes out the window. After dinner is when the party starts imo, and don't be surprised if the people you are expecting to be in bed by 8pm want to hang out.
We had a 68 year old guest attend our reception afterparty that didn't start until 1am. You don't need to frivolously spend money and get fancy centerpieces and all, but having a set place/time to be after dinner may be appreciated by more guests than you realize.