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#11 deleted

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    Posted 05 January 2007 - 01:57 PM

    We opted for the "traditional" of not seeing each other...but now I wish we had just so we could have had more time for photos before sunset. Once the ceremony starts it all starts to fly by so I can see in retrospect how a few moments before would really be extra special

    #12 Christine

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    Posted 05 January 2007 - 02:25 PM

    I am beginning to like the idea of a private moment before hand...it is still going to be special for him to see you walking down the aisle with your parents (for me both my mom and dad will walk me down the aisle), but I also like the idea of getting some of the pictures done before the ceremony. I do want my pictures of the two of us to be after the wedding though (becuase then we'll both have our wedding bands on)
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    #13 KARLA

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      Posted 05 January 2007 - 02:29 PM

      We did not follow many of the wedding traditions, but oddly enough this one was important to both of us. We had a room together, yet for the night before the wedding he stayed in his sister's room and I stayed by myself. We did not see each other the whole day of the wedding. It made me SO excited to see him when I walked down the aisle.

      #14 *JillD*

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        Posted 05 January 2007 - 03:17 PM

        Steve & I don't agree on this one, he really wants to do pictures before hand so that we have more time to spend with family & friends, I really want the first time he sees me to be when I walk down the aisle. He says, he is still going to be "wowed" when he sees me coming down the aisle. But I liked the way that Jonathan put it, about having a private moment before the ceremony and doing some pictures together before, I think I might be changing my mind about this. Steve will go along with whatever I want, but this might be a nice way to make both of us happy and I'll be less nervous walking down the aisle!

        #15 mexico15

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          Posted 05 January 2007 - 04:52 PM

          Originally Posted by jthrasherphoto.com
          True, but...as a guy, I know I would have that same "wow" feeling if it were just me and her, possibly even more so because I wouldn't be worried about all the guests watching me.

          And... it makes it easier for the photographer to capture that because he/she doesn't have to work around all the guests standing while she's walking down the isle.

          Just some food for thought.

          That wouldn't matter much since we are having a very small group with us. And we are staying together the night of the wedding, so we would gets lots of alone time. Just depends on the person I guess.

          #16 Nrvsbride

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            Posted 05 January 2007 - 04:55 PM

            I really, really just don't want to be seen until the moment I walk down. That's the only tradition that I really, really want to keep. Maybe its silly but that's just the way I feel.


            #17 OneLove

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              Posted 05 January 2007 - 05:33 PM

              i see both sides of this one..and i lean more to the traditional side.. i asked my fi his opinion, and he says, "isn't that bad luck?"..ha.. but generally, i'd like the first moment to be seen is walking down the isle. my thought for us is pictures can be done during the cocktail hour, and the private moments and photos for that vibe can done in the day after photo session. and time with family and friends is also shared throughout the other days, and not limited to just the reception hrs since it is a DW..


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                Posted 05 January 2007 - 05:43 PM

                hehe- I know I've already responded to this issue on the other similar thread, but I'll reiterate my position. I agree with Andrea's FI- I think it's bad luck. But, that's only because I did the whole photos beforehand thing with my first husband (it was very beautiful, the photographer took pics of our "alone time") and we ended up getting divorced. Now, I'm sure we got divorced for more reasons than because we took pics before the wedding (I would have to say his cheating was a bigger issue than that!), but somehow I can't help holding on to the superstition that it's bad luck for the bride & groom to see eachother.
                Therefore, the first time Jeff sees me will be when I walk down that aisle toward him...I'm looking forward to the WOW!

                #19 TammyB

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                  Posted 05 January 2007 - 05:58 PM

                  Sarah I was married before as well, and I didn't see my ex the day of until we walked down the aisle.. Well, come to think of it, he was at my house and he refused to leave until after midnight so maybe it is bad luck.. :-)

                  Anyway, just do what feels right for you and your FI, that's all that's important, shoot Cain and I are going to get a couples massage the morning of our wedding together.

                  #20 Sarah


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                    Posted 05 January 2007 - 06:04 PM

                    I don't seriously think that it was seeing my first husband before the ceremony that led to the demise of our relationship. Jeff & I just have very strong feelings about not seeing eachother until I walk down that aisle. It's just a personal choice- it's what works for me.
                    Although...I may have to rething- the couples massage sounds really good!

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