Confessions

[sandinmytoes]

No we had not even met each other yet THANK GOD, I am sooo not "that" girl and I think thats why I have avoided it. I am comtemplating getting a bottle of hard liquor and spilling my guts this weekend on our weekend get-a-way!~

Thanks

[BachataBride]

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Originally Posted by sandinmytoes OMG i cannot beleive I am sharing this but....... My FI is divorced and after we started dating I was curious what his X wife looked like (cuz I am a girl) and to my suprise in his wedding pic I knew the Best man.. Let me be Clear I REALLY knew him. This man is happily married now with three kids and we talk on myspace sometimes and he knows that I am engaged etc no harm although I have never told my FI because they dont talk anymore since they havent worked together in over ten years I acknowledged I knew the guy! Do I need to tell him ??The Best Man says no that hes too jealous and it would bother him if the tables were turned and it was his wife! HELP

I think you should tell him. DH and I have been down this road & believe me...it can lead to so many trust & honestly issues if he ever found out. Thank god we worked through it, but it was tough there for a while.

[Sloan]

I confess that I am WAY hotter than FI's ex.

[DWandMJ]

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Originally Posted by sandinmytoes OMG i cannot beleive I am sharing this but....... My FI is divorced and after we started dating I was curious what his X wife looked like (cuz I am a girl) and to my suprise in his wedding pic I knew the Best man.. Let me be Clear I REALLY knew him. This man is happily married now with three kids and we talk on myspace sometimes and he knows that I am engaged etc no harm although I have never told my FI because they dont talk anymore since they havent worked together in over ten years I acknowledged I knew the guy! Do I need to tell him ??The Best Man says no that hes too jealous and it would bother him if the tables were turned and it was his wife! HELP

I agree that you should be honest with FI and tell him that he's a buddy on myspace, but if he's anything like mine, spare the details (he doesn't want to imagine you in that way). FI should accept your past, but he probably doesn't want to know what mr. best man may or may not have taught you
I'm a jealous girl, and as much as it irks me when one of FI's ex's call to see how he is, I'd rather know their history than if it were just some random girl.

[Bridget810]

I think it's okay to tell your FI that you knew/know his old best man, but if I were you, I wouldn't tell him any details--especially sexual ones! Trust me, guys really don't want to to know those things! Now, if he asks "did you date him" or anything specific, it's probably best to be honest. But if I were you, I'd only spill if asked.

[Kat81]

I agree you should tell him yet leave out the details. Just say Oh I know so and so. It was a long time ago though.

 

What a small world!

 

I also like to know what DH's ex's look like!

[cougs]

i confess that i can not stop buying things for DIY projects that i know i will never actually *do*. pretty soon i'm going to have to have a pre-wedding sale, if for nothing other than to support my shopping habit! LOL

[MarieSam]

I think this partially a product of PMS and work-related frustration, but I confess that it irks me to no end when people do nothing but complain as if they're the freaking kind and queen of the universe. Nothing is ever perfect, so stop knit picking and just go with the flow!

 

I also get annoyed by newbies who don't follow forum etiquette -- not doing searches and posting the same topic over and over and over again, making it both redundant and I'm sure time consuming for the mods. :

 

Aaaahhh, yes this has to be PMS x 100 ~ sorry newbies, I know I'm being harsh and have done it myself, but damn it....

[Duchess]

Marie- I am not sure who you mean, but this thread and the venting thread are meant to be safe outlets for people to vent on wedding frustrations. I found planning the wedding to be difficult, and without this board, I would have been totally alone. And venting here was great because other people in the same boat would be there to support things that those not having a DW wouldnt understand.

 

As far as the search functionality, I agree people shouldn't keep posting, but seaching threads is ridiculously hard. If you dont get the results you want you have to wait, and with common words like Wedding Coordinator, or Wedding Programs, you won't get concise results. I would rather us not get mad at Newbies, and just try to help them. If you are better at a search, post the link and tell them what you searched on.

[Andi]

Ok, I am pretty sure this is already in this thread somewhere but i just need to vent!

 

I confess that my unbooked, haven't RSVP'd guests are driving me INSANE! I am about ready to pull all reference to hotels and airfare off of our wedding website!

 

I am irked because I sent my STD's out 10 months before the wedding and the invitations 6 months before!!!!!!!!! the RSVP date on the invitations was for January 15th...this week alone we have had 4 people come to us and tell us that they now want to go and want to book!!!! (mind you these are people that have NEVER told us previously that they wanted to come!)

 

I thought that there would be a few RSVP stragglers but SERIOUSLY they are now OVER a month past due!!!!!!!!!! UGH!