Confessions

[ErinB]

My DH always buys the long wordy cards. Well, I figured out a few years ago that he rarely finishes reading them. I was always getting cards for "my darling wife" even before we were engaged.

 

I used to tease him and buy husband cards. I'd cross it out and write boyfriend.

[Duchess]

I totally agree. Valentines day is pointless to me. I think either you feel loved or you dont in life. Is that terrible? I guess it's just the idea of a date being picked and on that date all couples in western civilization have to express love. What about expressing it when you do feel it?

 

Maybe I am just cranky cause I am PMS ing on Vday. But I have always hated it and the high prices and difficult getting reservations that go along with it.

[*Casey*]

I hate V-Day too! Even though I have an amazing FI, it still sucks!

[drtracy]

Okay, now that V-day is over. (I'm usually ambivalent about it but FI does such a great job with "homemade" special-ness that it's hard not to like it.)

 

I have to get some confessions out:

 

#1 - I hate my sister. The only time she wasn't making my life miserable was when she moved to Texas for a few years. I grew up with her calling me fat (I wasn't) trying to steal my boyfriends, making fun of me in front of everyone for now reason, trying to fight me when I grew taller than her (serious fist fights), she once lied about something so serious that she got us both removed from our parents home and we had to live with my grandparents for several weeks. She works about 1 day every 3 month and lies about it so my parents won't kick her out of the house that they are paying for (if it wasn't for my nephew she would be on the street). And now, she's mad that I won't pay for her to go to Cancun, DUH I don't want her there. But, I feel horribly guilty about it (and about hating her, I mean, she's my sister).

#2 - I like most of my FIs friends but I dislike most of their wives. They are so traditional and 1950s wives with jobs that it annoys me. An example, we were discussing the fact that I'm not legally changing my last name. For work it's staying the same an in our personal lives I don't care either way so it's easier just to keep it all the same. To my face one of the wives said, "If I was a guy I wouldn't marry someone that wouldn't take my name." WTF - really, THAT'S a deal breaker for you? And why would you tell me that?

 

#3 - I'm really sad that neither my FI nor myself can remember how we met. We've known each other since high school and we know that we met through his cousins and parties and such but we don't have a great story about the first time we saw each other or anything like that. Grant it, we didn't start dating until 14 years after high school, but still makes me a little sad to only have the, "How we reconnected story."

 

Sorry this is so long, just wanted to get a few things off my chest today.

[Kat81]

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Originally Posted by drtracy Okay, now that V-day is over. (I'm usually ambivalent about it but FI does such a great job with "homemade" special-ness that it's hard not to like it.) I have to get some confessions out: #1 - I hate my sister. The only time she wasn't making my life miserable was when she moved to Texas for a few years. I grew up with her calling me fat (I wasn't) trying to steal my boyfriends, making fun of me in front of everyone for now reason, trying to fight me when I grew taller than her (serious fist fights), she once lied about something so serious that she got us both removed from our parents home and we had to live with my grandparents for several weeks. She works about 1 day every 3 month and lies about it so my parents won't kick her out of the house that they are paying for (if it wasn't for my nephew she would be on the street). And now, she's mad that I won't pay for her to go to Cancun, DUH I don't want her there. But, I feel horribly guilty about it (and about hating her, I mean, she's my sister). #2 - I like most of my FIs friends but I dislike most of their wives. They are so traditional and 1950s wives with jobs that it annoys me. An example, we were discussing the fact that I'm not legally changing my last name. For work it's staying the same an in our personal lives I don't care either way so it's easier just to keep it all the same. To my face one of the wives said, "If I was a guy I wouldn't marry someone that wouldn't take my name." WTF - really, THAT'S a deal breaker for you? And why would you tell me that? #3 - I'm really sad that neither my FI nor myself can remember how we met. We've known each other since high school and we know that we met through his cousins and parties and such but we don't have a great story about the first time we saw each other or anything like that. Grant it, we didn't start dating until 14 years after high school, but still makes me a little sad to only have the, "How we reconnected story." Sorry this is so long, just wanted to get a few things off my chest today.

You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family. It is not your responsibility to pay for your sister to go to Cancun. I wouldn't feel bad at all.

Some people are ignorant. They never think outside the box. I have the same problem with some girls. They just think there is one way to do something.

I think that is a cool story on how you met. Most people don't know eachother that long before they finally "get together" I think it is cute you have known each other forever!

[drtracy]

Thanks Kat81,

It was nice to vent that all out. I felt much better after. You are totally right about everything.

Thanks for the props on our meeting story. I realized that I've already known him for 1/2 my life and we aren't even married yet. Wow!

[Bianca]

Small confession:

 

I have spent nearly $300 at MAC in the past 3 days and I really want to go get a limited edition brush that is sold out online and in many stores, so I have to call first... It's so hard to not leave work and just go. My boss is out this week, so no one will know . And I also got my friend hooked on MAC... woops.

[YaelM]

DrTracy - i agree with Kat81. You should not feel guilty about your sister. Its YOUR wedding day and the last thing you need is to be stressed out by her presence

 

Yay for May 8 2009!

[sandinmytoes]

OMG i cannot beleive I am sharing this but....... My FI is divorced and after we started dating I was curious what his X wife looked like (cuz I am a girl) and to my suprise in his wedding pic I knew the Best man.. Let me be Clear I REALLY knew him. This man is happily married now with three kids and we talk on myspace sometimes and he knows that I am engaged etc no harm although I have never told my FI because they dont talk anymore since they havent worked together in over ten years I acknowledged I knew the guy!

Do I need to tell him ??The Best Man says no that hes too jealous and it would bother him if the tables were turned and it was his wife! HELP

[sunsetbride1]

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Originally Posted by sandinmytoes OMG i cannot beleive I am sharing this but....... My FI is divorced and after we started dating I was curious what his X wife looked like (cuz I am a girl) and to my suprise in his wedding pic I knew the Best man.. Let me be Clear I REALLY knew him. This man is happily married now with three kids and we talk on myspace sometimes and he knows that I am engaged etc no harm although I have never told my FI because they dont talk anymore since they havent worked together in over ten years I acknowledged I knew the guy! Do I need to tell him ??The Best Man says no that hes too jealous and it would bother him if the tables were turned and it was his wife! HELP

Oh wow.. its a small world huh?
And I always look for pics of my FI's ex's .. Im curious I guess.

If it were me, I would tell FI. If you don't; it's like you are trying to hide something that you are doing wrong. You weren't with FI when you 'got to know' the guy.. so no harm done.