I confess that I have given up on the whole big wedding thing and no longer speak to my family because of wedding planning gone wrong. But I know I had to be true to myself and my FH and do what we wanted and not what my mother insisted on. I confess that I haven't spoken to my parents in over a month (which for me is like a year, we used to talk several times a day and I don't live with them) and I don't feel bad about it. I don't know if I have just shut down emotionally where they are concerned or if I really just don't care because I'm now stress free. But I know my DW, which is more like us having an intimate ceremony on the beach with only our son, is going to be exactly what we my FH and I want and best of all, no drama!
I confess that my parents aren't the only reason I'm so excited about a DW and no guests. I'm excited his grown daughters won't be there (he didn't plan to send them an invite when we were having the wedding at home) and that his parents won't be there either. All of them together or seperate equals drama. And I confess that this last year with both of his kids out of the house has been pure bliss. And since they never come around I am even happier and so is he. I guess people should know they put us thru pure hell and stole from us. I had a $700 necklace from my daughters father that I was going to give her on her wedding day (she is only in elem. school now) and they stole that and my FH gave me a bracelett for our first Christmas that I loved and they stole that. Plus money and other little things around our house. Plus they are hell on wheels, both are drop outs and druggies. So I guess you can get an idea of why it is pure bliss now.