My confession may run a little long. I write like I speak which can end up very long winded. Sorry in advance if you read it. I wonâ€™t be offended if you skip it, lol!
I am the oldest of 5 and the middle child is the only boy. My sisters and I were always very close. When I was 21, I was awarded custody of my two youngest sisters and my sister after me helped me with the expenses of â€œraisingâ€ our two (at that time) high school aged sisters. We all lived together in an apartment that I ended up shouldering a large chunk of the cost of aside from food, clothes, etc. expenses for the two youngest. I worked two jobs, one full and one part-time, 7 days a week.
Because of our situation we had always been close and put each other first before friends. When my sister after me got married, I threw her a bridal shower. It was hard since she doesnâ€™t like garlic and a lot of types of food and worked on weekends. It ended up being a brunch. I had to deal with her future MIL and SistersIL who wanted a lot of say but were putting in NO money whatsoever and didnâ€™t even help with set up at the venue or anything. Her future MIL even bought them a suitcase set after I told her I was going to buy them one!!
My two youngest sisters never made it to a single appointment to look at dresses. In fact, one never showed up since she â€œover sleptâ€. Thank goodness my FMIL was there or I would have ended up there by myself feeling a like a looser.
My married sister made it to a dress hunting appointment and was really nice about the whole thing which surprised me since she HATED shopping for her own dress.
I had a wine and cheese party because my sisters wanted to help me with my save the dates. I wanted to just let them stuff the envelopes and enjoy each otherâ€™s company instead of doing any actual work. My married sister and her husband came on time and were so helpful. My two youngest sisters showed up over 3 hours late and didnâ€™t even tell me they were going to be late. They apparently were â€œrunning errandsâ€ before the party and â€œgot stuck in trafficâ€. They then left early so one of them could go to another party. I was completely disappointed.
I asked my sister who is married about a bridal shower for me and she told me she didnâ€™t think it would be appropriate since I was asking people to spend money on traveling to my wedding.
Again, I was greatly disappointed. I feel like Iâ€™ve done so much for my sisters and I have never asked for anything in return. However, I canâ€™t help but feel like they are unappreciative of all I have done and continue to do for them and take me for granted.
I hate saying anything negative about them but this has really been bothering me.
I am just going to keep in mind that I canâ€™t lean on them for any sort of support during my wedding planning and I wonâ€™t be disappointed. I guess I just wanted to get my feelings â€œout thereâ€.