Ashley, I am 100% in the same boat. I'm so sad/happy to hear that someone else can relate to this situation. My MOH also will not be attending my wedding, as she is now pregnant. While this is great news for her, my confession is that I secretly wonder if it is true or just an excuse to get out of the wedding? How sad is that?!? The thing is she doesn't talk about the pregnancy at all (even when its just the two of us), and always quickly changes the topic when it is brought up. At a recent function, I confess that I even watched to see if she drank any alcohol (she didn't). I too was the friend that has been there to support her through everything, but have not remotely received the same in return.
In the end, it has been a blessing in disguise, as I now have the MOH I should have had in the first place....some who is excited to have been chosen for MOH and is very excited for the wedding and her friend. Hopefully you will find the same results too!
Originally Posted by AshleyL
So my MOH informed me last week that she is pregnant and most likely won't be attending my wedding. While part of me is thrilled for her, my confession is this:
I had a feeling from the beginning that she would find a way out of this. She was married last year and I did everything - planned the shower, hosted the bachelorette at my home, paid over $4000 to go to her wedding plus paid for dress, hair, everything. She didn't even get the BM's a thank you gift and I never got a thank you in person - just the thank you card for the shower/wedding gifts. Now it's finally my turn and I just feel so let down. She said she still wants to help with everything but I know that's not going to happen. Also I don't know what to do about asking someone else because they will know that they were second choice since I already announced my wedding party. And I can't ask anyone until she announces the pregnancy because I'm the only one who knows and I don't want to give it away. She doesn't want to say anything for 3 months! So that leaves 3 months until my wedding.
Sorry for the long rant. Part of me feels like a terrible friend for not just being 100% supportive and happy for her. But part of me is so tired of always being the great friend to everyone else and not getting anything in return.