I didn't post much when planning my wedding, but I wanted to share my experiences with you all since I am now back. My wedding was last week. 1st, the entire experience was magical. My guests had a great time and truly enjoyed their vacations. I think some would have preferred a resort with a bigger casino, dreams has one but it is very, very small. The kids club was great for families, there were lots of dining options, and the resort was small enough that you would run into each other from time to time, but large enough that sometimes you had to really hunt people down if you were looking for them. Everyone was able to do their own thing.
The wedding ended up being great, but I will say that I really felt like things could have run much smoother with a different wedding coordinator. I had Gara and I felt like I really had to chase her down for a lot of things, including setting up a meeting to arrange things after I arrived and trying to obtain my luggage that contained the wedding decorations, etc after the wedding. Ultimately, 30 mins before our departure, my husband had to get the concierge to grab our bag from the wedding coordinators office. Some things just didn't get done, like including recognition of our wedding on the daily Dreams newsletter. The wedding and reception were absolutely beautiful, but these things were hassles that a bride just doesn't need on the days leading up to and the morning of her wedding.
I used HDC photo for my pics & video and I can't say enough great things about them. I would recommend them to anyone.
Oh, and re: reception music, I would say just go for the ipod speakers. They worked out great for us.
Hope this helps. Happy wedding planning!