Arggh! Need to vent a little...
Posted 05 February 2008 - 03:29 PM
So my FI and I got engaged in Oct. and almost immediately decided on a DW and we were very open and honest with all of our friends and family about our plans.
Everyone was pretty receptive to our decision to get married in Jamaica. They were on board and their only request was that we gave them lots of notice...so I complied with their request! I started planning early, I picked a resort, picked a TA, requested a group rate, sent out wedding website with all the info... the wedding will take place next Jan. at ROR.
So now it has come time for people to put down their deposit. NO ONE IN MY FAMILY WILL PUT DOWN A DEPOSIT! So far we have 11 people that RSVP'd and put down deposit. All RSVP's are either FI's family or our friends. I feel so upset and a little angry too. I accommodated their requests for "lots of notice", so what is the problem? They have a year to save their money, etc.
I feel like I'm being "strung along".. Either commit and say your coming or decline and say you aren't. I love my family but right now I am so frustrated with them!
Today I told them, they have 1 month to give me a definitive answer. I know its a year away, but I really need to know if anyone from my family is coming... this is emotionally straining on me..I'm a thinker and I'm a worrier. So this whole fiasco is emotionally draining for me right now!
Am I being too hard on them and turning into a "bridezilla"?
What do you suggest I do?
Advice please, anyone?
Posted 05 February 2008 - 03:39 PM
you are NOT being a bridezilla. hardly any of my family is coming to my DW because they are too lazy to travel or would rather spend their money doing something else like finishing their basement. yes, im serious. you cant let it get to you too much though --- ask them for a definitive answer and if they say no, then yeah you will be disappointed, but if they say yes you can make sure they get their deposit in. sometimes, sadly, you have to hold peoples hands to make them do stuff.
Posted 05 February 2008 - 03:39 PM
call your family & see what the deley is. They might still be trying to work out vacation time, etc. Also, a lot of my guests put it off even though they meant to, but just never got around to it. I think DW planning is much easier if you don't get too involved in your guests booking.
Posted 05 February 2008 - 03:48 PM
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Posted 05 February 2008 - 03:55 PM
Posted 05 February 2008 - 03:59 PM
I think 70 people told me they were interested. 18 have booked. Before deciding to do a DW I think brides should consider if they can handle this uncertainty. Also, we need to be able to hear all the different reasons why people can't go & not take it personally. Sometiems guests are just being downright rude, selfish or inconsiderate. But, often they are not trying to be difficult & just really don't know if they will make the trip.
Posted 05 February 2008 - 04:04 PM
| Originally Posted by melwru |
The deposit isnt that much. Its $200. And they have until 45 days before departure to pay it out. I'm trying not to get involved with guests booking but this is my family. my Dad already told me he wouldn't be coming because a trip to the tropics is on the "bottom of his list of things to do"....um Dad, its my wedding? My twin sis agreed to be my MOH but now cant confirm if she is going to come or not? My mom says she needs to work out her budget( ok, i understand that, i guess). as for my Bro and older sis...I havent even heard back from them AT ALL. And i call people but now I'm starting to feel like a "door-to-door vaccuum salesman", trying to convince people it would be a great time if they came to my wedding. I shouldnt have to resort to this. I just want my someone in my family to attend.....
Where does your dad like to vacation? Who doesn't like tropical?
Posted 05 February 2008 - 04:13 PM
Posted 05 February 2008 - 04:16 PM
My FI was extremely upset that his family wasn't going to come but he was resolved to still have the DW. He felt that it was their loss. They ended up booking a little bit ago. Guilt set in and they used money that was suppose to repair their roof to go. Now I think they are just trying to make us feel bad that they had to use that money to go to our wedding, but I saw so many things that they maybe shouldn't have bought along the way. People just have weird priorities sometimes. But whatever...at least they are coming in the end.
I wouldn't get too worked up now. A lot will change in a year- trust me!!
Posted 05 February 2008 - 04:31 PM
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