| Originally Posted by Betsy |
That is horrible!!! I am so sorry!
OK - here's my knee-jerk thoughts ... if you do decide to have the ceremony at the hotel, you have already thought through the pros --- no transportation, no lost time with Bradley, etc. --- so there are some positives.
It sounds like you priest in Chicago is very nice (or at least super-responsive!) - after explaining the situation to him, would you be able to have a smaller ceremony there? I'm not Catholic, but FI is ... and we had to have lots of talks about having my friend (a Methodist minister) officiate at our ceremony. I know that it is really, really important in the Catholic faith to have the ceremony be Catholic ...
On the other hand ... should we start making LOTS of fans now? If I remember correctly, the ceremony can be rather long ... so, I would say if you go with 4:30, then I think that having fans and cold drinks for the bus ride back will keep your guests happy!
Is your FI ok with not having a Catholic ceremony? Or, can you get a Catholic priest to come to the hotel?
| Originally Posted by Mrs.B 2008 |
oh maura i am sorry. do you speak fluent spanish? did he say that he definitely gave away the time? can you have FI's mom call back until she speaks with him and tell him the situation?
| Originally Posted by fogdog |
We did our Catholic ceremony at home after our Cabo wedding and the priest was totally fine with it. I'm sure if you chat with your priest about it he will accommodate you.
Could I suggest...use the extra money you would have paid to do it in your church and fly your priest down there? He may want you to do a small ceremony in the actual church when you get home to make it official, but you can always consider your Mexico wedding your "real" day.
| Originally Posted by JamaicaBride062108 |
Maura I'm so sorry! I'd be going through the roof if I were you.
Will the hotel let you have a Catholic ceremony? I know that we could have arranged it at our resort in Jamaica. Is there another church nearby? Maybe the hotel could let you use the ballroom so you could set up an altar. At least it would be air-conditioned! The money you save could be used to make the room pretty.
I'll send you happy thoughts while you work everything out. Keep us posted!
Also, a bit of an update:I called our family priest this evening, and he suggested that what we do is try to reserve the church for Saturday morning and we can do a private mass with just our parents present. Then, in the early evening at the hotel, our family priest will do a vow renewal type ceremony for all our guests (but we would not tell our guests that it is not the real ceremony).
He suggested also that I send him the contact information for the Bishop of La Paz, which has jurisdiction over the parish of San Jose del Cabo and he will see what kind of strings he can pull if they will allow him to do the ceremony at the Westin so we don't have to have two ceremonies -- he said if not (which is the most likely scenario), then we keep the appointment for using the church on Saturday morning with our parents and that anything we do in the evening with our guests is none of the church's business, and he will perform that ceremony even if they tell him they don't approve it.
I need to call my FMIL in a little bit, but I am just so irritated we have spent so much time doing everything by the books for the catholic church because its important to our families that we get married in the church. and now after all that, its like we totally wasted our time. i refuse to let my FMIL bribe the church to pay to get our ceremony time back, which is likely what she will suggest. i just think that's ludicrous.
well....i'll keep you guys updated as this evolves, thanks for listening. it really helps to get this off my chest and discuss it, even if nothing is resolved here, it makes me feel a lot better.