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#11 Maura

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Posted 29 January 2008 - 06:41 PM

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since it's not you that sends out the invites for your shower, typically, the people hosting DO put the registry info. on the invites. however, i do think it's tacky to include it on your wedding registry, since you're the one sending those out.
good point ann, i wasnt thinking about that. now that im remembering the last 3-4 shower invites i got, it didnt have any registry info on it, though. but i think if you have nothing to do with sending the invites, its perfectly acceptable to put a little insert with where you're registered on it. my aunt sent me an email about my shower (which is at the end of june...she is so anal) and how to include our registries with the shower info (as well as proceeding to tell me where to register).

but yes, definitely not on the wedding invite or enclosed with it, that just gives me the yucks.

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    Posted 29 January 2008 - 06:43 PM

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    right, and it's not YOU sending the invites. that's why they give you those cute little registry cards - or at least some places, like Macy's, does anyway
    Target does too. Although, Target has a bad rep now, so not sure how many people will use them.

    #13 LCBride2007

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      Posted 29 January 2008 - 06:52 PM

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      Originally Posted by mauraw
      good point ann, i wasnt thinking about that. now that im remembering the last 3-4 shower invites i got, it didnt have any registry info on it, though. but i think if you have nothing to do with sending the invites, its perfectly acceptable to put a little insert with where you're registered on it. my aunt sent me an email about my shower (which is at the end of june...she is so anal) and how to include our registries with the shower info (as well as proceeding to tell me where to register).

      but yes, definitely not on the wedding invite or enclosed with it, that just gives me the yucks.
      yea, not all of the showers i've been to have had the info. - maybe about half of them do.

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        Posted 29 January 2008 - 07:36 PM

        I like the enclosure cards in shower invites. I was brought up in an old-school family where it was inappropraite to print that info.

        When I registered I got the little cards and passed them along to my mom, who will hand them out to the shower hostess.

        After much debate, I did put the like to our registry on our web-site.

        I can't BELIEVE someone would register for cash. That is the most uncouth thing I have ever heard! I wouldn't send them a present either, Maura!

        #15 Maura

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        Posted 29 January 2008 - 07:58 PM

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        Originally Posted by JamaicaBride062108
        I like the enclosure cards in shower invites. I was brought up in an old-school family where it was inappropraite to print that info.

        When I registered I got the little cards and passed them along to my mom, who will hand them out to the shower hostess.

        After much debate, I did put the like to our registry on our web-site.

        I can't BELIEVE someone would register for cash. That is the most uncouth thing I have ever heard! I wouldn't send them a present either, Maura!
        I was also brought up pretty old school that it was inappropriate to print the info on invitations. I think the enclosures are good for showers, but never for wedding invitations, but just MHO. That's a good idea to pass those little cards along to the shower hostess, I will have to remember that. We weren't even really going to register because we don't need a lot and wanted people to come to our wedding instead of getting us presents, but then so many people kept asking us where we're registered so we decided to do it and when we are done and add the link to our website, we are going to put something like "Your presence is our present. We are so lucky to have friends like you. But for those of you who still insist, we are registered at the following:"

        Because we also have people who already know they arent coming who have told us they want to send us gifts, and some friends who arent even invited (let me tell you that was kind of an awkward convo) who said they wanted to send us gifts anyway too.

        And yeah -- the gift requesting cash by putting their bank accounts is THE most uncouth, tacky and disgustingly in poor taste thing ever. I think my FI's exact words were "pinches nacos de la verga" -- for those of you who dont speak spanish, that's very very naughty to say about somebody. The little enclosure said something to the effect of, at your kind disposition, here are our bank account numbers. I should say also that the people were wealthy, which made it even worse. He was so offended, he threw the invitation out.

        #16 nylalany

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          Posted 30 January 2008 - 10:28 AM

          It is NOT me sending the invites out - how can you send invites to your own shower - now that seems tacky for sure!

          I've decided since I've never received an invite where the person was registered that my friend should leave it off. I've always just asked or looked up on wedding channel, etc. I didn't think of asking her to include my website...everyone should already know it by now hopefully (not that they seem to read it!)

          Anyhow, thanks for your opinions!

          #17 nylalany

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            Posted 30 January 2008 - 10:31 AM

            Also, I agree that registering for cash is REALLY disgusting! I come from a culture that most people give cash for gifts anyhow (for weddings), but I just can't imagine anyone actually putting it on a registry!

            Even putting the registry on my website seemed a little tacky to me, but since everyone seems to do it, and since so many people have asked me where I am registered, I put it there. I hope that is ok by all those not used to wedding website etiquette.

            #18 Copita

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              Posted 30 January 2008 - 11:18 AM

              According to etiquette, it is no appropriate to have that info on the invites.
              However, she should def put the word out of where you are registered.

              #19 foxytv

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                Posted 30 January 2008 - 11:30 AM

                I don't have any advice on this b/c I haven't seen any of the invites for my showers. My sister is sending the invites out for 2 of them and Tom's best man and wife are doing the others. I know my sister asked my bra/panty size b/c one is a lingerie party and it sounds like from what some of my friends said that she put my friggin size on a preliminary eVite that she sent out. OMG!!!

                She did ask about the registry stuff and I just gave her the order of importance as far as the stores.

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                  Posted 30 January 2008 - 11:39 AM

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                  Originally Posted by mauraw
                  we got invited to a wedding in mexico for some random friend of FI's that we arent close with, and the couple included a small enclosure about gift registry and it actually had their freakin bank account numbers because they wanted cash gifts. we didnt go to the wedding and needless to say we also didnt send a gift because the bank account #s was such a turnoff.
                  Wow, not only is that tacky, it's also VERY unsafe. Why would ANYONE put their bank account information out there in black and white for anyone to steal or gain access?

                  That is ridiculous ... and that is also why there are honeymoon registries.

                  We have a honeymoon registry (only my sister has used it, though) and AAA Vacations also set up an account if anyone wanted to contribute -- but no one has.

                  I think we will likely get a lot of money for gifts at our AHR ... but it would have been nice to have to help get things paid for ahead of time. lol

                  Either way, we really are not in need of anything, so we have asked for no gifts, regardless. We only registered b/c people kept asking -- so I tried to give different options (Honeymoon Registry, AAA Vacations account, Macys, Bed Bath and Beyond, and Home Depot).




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