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[rodent]

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Originally Posted by LadyP yes i would have no problem eloping and having a party for our 1st year anni. money has been tight and our son's career is moving forward so it wouldnt bother me

Would your family be ok with that? If so, I vote for elope. I think eloping can be fun & romantic if it's what you would want. And if money is tight, it can probably relieve some stress. It would also take less planning time & allow you to focus more on your son's career.

[starchild]

Don't send an std if you aren't 100% sure you will have the St. Thomas wedding. As a guest if I put down a deposit and you changed your mind I would hate you for awhile...lol

 

Do send an std if you will have your St. Thomas wedding come hell or high water! Your guests need as much time as possible to plan for time off/money/etc.

 

There is nothing wrong with eloping either....and it saves money!

[TATrisha]

I say that you should wait to send out the STD's until he gives you the OK. If that isn't until you get an official ring on your finger, then that's when you should send them. Does he know that payments are due in six months?

[foxytv]

Yeah, I say you mightw ant to think about a PLan B -- (i.e. eloping or postponing) until you are both really ready to set something in stone.

 

BUT, as soon as you are -- I would send out STD's.

 

IMO, if the final payment is July and your guests don't even know about it yet, that is asking a lot. Our guests had over a year to plan and save and it is still like pulling teeth.

[lucy106]

I would agree STDs are important for DW. Have you guys talked about when the ring is coming? We were in the same situation, we had planned everything but no ring. All of our friends and family knew but still no ring. I felt silly sending out STDs without a ring. Well a month later the ring came so the STDs were sent out a week later ( I had them already printed, addressed, and stamped). But I think STDs give friends and family a chance to save money and prepare for your perfect day!

[Diamond]

Send them out especially if you already have them... can't hurt... can only help that's the way I see it... and tell him to get you a RING already!! lol

[ACDCDCAC]

I voted YES but here's my explanation, Knowing that Valentines day is right around the corner, I would hold off at least until then to see if he gets the job done then. If he finally brings the bling, by all means send 'em, and fast! If he is still dragging his heels, let him know in the kindest way possible that it's not just you waiting on the ring, but that any guests will need this official confirmation of your engagement to start planning financially and you have to let them know you're engaged and send the STD's asap in order to do this. I don't know his entire situation, maybe it's $ or nerves or whatever that has put a hitch in his giddyup, so don't push him, ESPECIALLY if you are cool with eloping to an awesome, stress free DW by yourselves.

 

ANYWAYS, we are sending STD's since our wedding is in the middle of summer, when lots of families like to take vacations. We have a lot of kids at our wedding, so that's where our heads are at with the STD thing.

 

Meanwhile, I'll be praying for you that he gives you a huge box of chocolates with a ring hiding in the box for Valentines day!