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#1 LadyP

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    Posted 27 January 2008 - 09:02 PM

    Ok as most of you know Lawrence my wonder FH has set our wedding date but has not given me a ring to date. I agreed that I would not begin planning until I got my ring. here is the problem, we have 8 months 22 days until the wedding I have not sent out STD cards and they are dated for March.

    Here is the question:
    Are STD cards really that important.

    When do I send out the invites because payment deadline is July 31st


    #2 GeminiLibra

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      Posted 27 January 2008 - 09:07 PM

      It's really a personal preference if you want to send out STD'd or not. I did not send any and sent out my invitations already because I wanted my guests to be able to start planning their vacation right away and get good deals. I only have a small group going and most already knew our plans so it worked for me. If it's a large group and not all aware of your plans a STD is a good idea but do not feel like you have to do that you could just send your invite along with some info about the wedding. I started a website which didn't have much info when I mailed my invites but as I plan more and more I add more and people just keep checking on it. Good luck and don't worry no matter what you do it will work out!

      #3 coreyphil

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        Posted 27 January 2008 - 09:17 PM

        how big are you planning your wedding to be? we only had a little less than 7 months ... i did send out STD's 6 months before the date so that people could start making plans. BUT - in hindsight ... i think i could have done without. we're only having about 35 to 40 ... and we've been in pretty constant contact with everyone.

        if you decide not to do them, but know that some of your guests might need a little extra planning time due to budget or work schedules --- then you might give them a heads up soon ...

        #4 ticia277

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          Posted 27 January 2008 - 09:26 PM

          Save the dates are importatnt for guests to plan. Especially, for a desination wedding. It takes time to save and request vacation time off etc.
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          #5 Jessica

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            Posted 27 January 2008 - 09:35 PM

            STD's were important to me because I wanted to allow people to plan and save up. Your date is pretty close... I don't know how many people you are inviting or how many people know when/where you are getting married... but I would say the sooner the better as far as giving people a head's up about the date and location. Especially since payment is due by a certain date.

            I sent out invites two months before the RSVP deadline just because I wanted to sort of remin everyone to get their stuff together and to give those procrastinators some time to figure out if they were coming or not.

            At this point I would say STD's are optional, but you should give people some notice of your plans.

            #6 becks



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              Posted 27 January 2008 - 09:56 PM

              I'd say send them. I know you're not planing the wedding yet, but clearly you have a date - so simply telling your guests doesn't break your rules, but does help them start with their planning/saving.

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              #7 Christine

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              Posted 27 January 2008 - 09:56 PM

              I sent out STD's and felt like it did help people plan for the wedding. Can you discuss this with Lawrence? Possibly make sure he is on board with everything and that he is comfortable with you sending them. Use the whole, what if someone close to you was planning a DW wouldn't you want some notice to start saving to see if you could go.
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              #8 Martha

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                Posted 27 January 2008 - 10:00 PM

                I agree your guests need to make plans ahead of time to save and whatnot.

                But, should you send out STDs before announcing the engagement? Know what I mean?

                #9 JUSTUSTWO


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                  Posted 27 January 2008 - 10:32 PM

                  I think that you should send them just to give people a heads up & so that they can plan appropriately. They have to budget & make sure they can get the time off that they need. The longer you wait, the shorter the time frame in which they can save, especially with your payment deadline being July 31st. You know how time flies & before you know it, July will be here. The last complaint that you want to hear is that you didn't give people enough time!

                  Just definitely make sure you & FI are on the same page with the date.

                  I know you asked our opinion but how do you really feel about it? Which way are you leaning towards?

                  #10 Bride010101

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                    Posted 27 January 2008 - 10:33 PM

                    I would defintely encourage you to send them. I know many of my guests needed the almost year in advance to get that amount of time off work and figure out other details (babysitters, etc).

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