Night Before and Day of the Wedding

[jfwolfe72]

Ok - this is a very random question.....but did you and your FI spend the night together the night before your wedding? Granted, my FI and I live together, but just wondered if everyone else just spent the night together beforehand or did something different...... Also, as for the wedding day, what did you do? Spend time together, hang out with guests, or just spend the whole day getting ready?

[gkashmira]

We spent the night together (we also lived together before). We spent all day together with our friends and family down in the pool - very fun! Then at like 3pm I went up to our room with my ladies and he went to his parents room to get dressed.

[fogdog]

We did not spend the night together, because that's what he wanted, but if I had it to do over, I would. We've been together for 6 years, lived together for 3... It was far more trouble than it was worth to schlep all my stuff into a room with my girlfriends where 4 of us shacked up - I hardly slept all night.

 

If I could do it again, I would have just agreed to get up before he woke up. I had brunch with the girls, hung out with my mom, and started getting ready the day of. It wasn't a big deal at all to be apart for the day. But the logistics of room switching for the overnight were a bit too much for me (we had 6+ suitcases btw us!).

[amandalovesryan]

We are getting married in May and we are planning to just stay together the night before. It would be too much of pain to stay somewhere else. Plus, we have been living together for 6 and 1/2 years.

[Alyssa]

we are getting married in sept and we are going to spend the night together, order room service for breakfast and then split off from there - i don't plan to see him again until i walk down the aisle!

[starchild]

We spent the night together (actually we were up talking and finishing favors half the night...lol). That morning I left with my BMs on the boat to the wedding site and didn't see him until the ceremony. It was about 11 hours without him and I missed him soooo much We already lived together too so the night before I would have gone crazy without him!

[jfwolfe72]

All of these responses are very helpful! I figured that most would spend the night (especially if you lived together), but didn't know if people would have done it differently if they could do it again. I think we'll just do that and then split up the morning of the wedding until the ceremony. I'm assuming that you or your FI changed in someone else's room, though?

[Sarah]

We had lived together for 2 years, but didn't spend the night together the night before the wedding. We had our welcome dinner the night before, spent some time with guests, then I helped him move his clothes & stuff for the wedding to his own room. He and I each stayed alone the night before the wedding. At the moment it was stressful- I was having a mini-meltdown...not about getting married, just that this was my last night "alone" and didn't want to leave his room. It was really hard to do, but I'm so glad we did. We both spent that time apart writing letters to eachother that we read right before the wedding. It was a very special time.

 

The morning of the wedding I woke up early, worked out alone, met family/friends (not DH) for breakfast, then went back to my room and spent some more time alone. Oddly, I really loved that alone time the day of my wedding. It was a great time to reflect on our relationship and get myself ready for the vows I was going to say and promise I was making. At noon I went to the hotel salon (again, alone) and had my hair done and drank champagne. Then, once I got back to the room, my friends and family (all the girls) brought their stuff to my room to get ready. All the guys went to Jeff's room to get ready.

 

We didn't do pictures beforehand, and didn't see eachother until I walked down the aisle. The anticipation was unbelievable. It was so wonderful- I absolutely wouldn't do it any other way if I could do it again.

[starchild]

Sarah that does sound neat, good opposing perspective. BTW you worked out on your wedding day? I feel fat just reading that...lol Good for you!

 

I also suggest some alone time if you can swing it. Mine was only for an hour, a few hours before my wedding, but my BMs gave me my space to go off into the jungle alone, write my vows, and reflect. It was a great calming experience.

[Leia78]

John and I have been living together for 4 years now, and we plan to sleep in separate rooms the night before and not see each other until the ceremony the next day. I think the anticipation will make for a "memorable" emotional moment...i can totally see him bawling when he sees me.

 

Plus, i've decided to have the mani/pedi spa party w/ my BMs the morning of our wedding. So I'll be surrounded by my girls pretty much all day that day.