No MOH

Hi everyone, I need an advice for my Bridal Party and MOH.

My situation: I moved to Canada from Russia 6 years ago and lived in Ottawa until last summer. Last summer I moved to other town a few hours away with my boyfriend (he is in military). So I lost connection with most friends that I had in Ottawa, since I am very busy with school, new house and day-to-day things. In my town I had not made too many friends. I spent some time with my fiancés brother’s girlfriend and my classmate. So now that my boyfriend proposed we decided to have DW and I need to choose MOH and bridal party.  I know that my fiancé will ask his brother. I was thinking to ask his brothers girlfriend since we hang out once in a while and she most likely will attend our wedding. But problem is that brother and her been together for 8 years and he had not proposed yet and she is quite desperate to get married. I think she still can’t get over that we got engaged (and I understand her). I could ask my classmate, but he is a guy and I don’t think he will be able to afford to come. I am thinking to ask my fiancé sister to be my bridesmaid. I would love to ask her to be MOH, but she lives in a different province and it would be hard.

Please help!!

Hi... congratulations on your engagment and upcoming wedding.  I had a hard time going the bridal party.... so I'm not having one. I'm just having a witness (MOH). With your situation, you may want to consider that? Having just a witness is very common in my birth country, so it wasn't a big issue for me.  If you're really big on having the whole official MOH thing (showers etc), then perhaps the sister isn't a good choice. But if you're not to particular on that, why not?  It's only one bridal dress to worry about, and she can get it or go try on, and just send you a picture before deciding.

Congratulations on your engagement!

For many different reasons, my fiance and I decided against a wedding party.. (We didn't want anyone feeling forced to come.. Didn't feel like having a whole bunch of people stand up there on the beach with us- LOL) In the end, my sister will be my maid of honor and thats it.. We personally want a more intimate feel to the wedding ceremony and I feel like with no wedding party there will be more focus on us.. In the end, do what you wish! Don't feel obligated to have a wedding party because you think it is expected.. The best things about destination weddings are there are no rules!

Good luck and happy planning!

Thank you girls. I am considering to not to have any bridal party, also I know what I want and I can do it myself with help from my fiance. Also I like mexicobride422 point, that I dont want to make anyone feel obligated to come. Bmadzia1 in my birth country we dont have bridal partys too, just one witness for bride and another for groom.

Thanks again for your advise. Good luck in your planning!!

Hi there. Congrats! Don't stress.

I have moved around my whole life and always knew i would have a hard time coming up with a bridal party. Beyond that I was the MOH in my best friends wedding and my sisters. They are both coming to Jamiaca with us so I had a really hard time designating one of them. Therefore, we chose to skip titles. All the people that will be there with us know they are there beacuse they are really special ppl in our lives. I wouldnt pick someone just because you feel like you have to.

As far as the she wants to get married situation....I am dealing with a very similar situation. My FI brother's GF wants to get married and she is soooooo jealous (They will be in Jamaica too) I simply over look it. Yes it took a minute for me to feel this way, but you are not part of thier relationship. Dont let anything ruin your day or bring you down. If she says any snide remarks....i choose to pretend i heard nothing

Don't let her get the little jabs in.

Good luck with everything!

casey

Thanks a lot Casey. I really appreciate your advise. I hope you will have an amzing wedding with minimal drama.

Enjoy yourself.

Kat

This was something that I really pondered when deciding whether or not to have a bridal party and if I did who would I choose.  Because I have moved around quite a bit I have lost contact with some friends.  My other close friends are spead all over the country and its hard to all get together.  We do have a bridal party, one each.  My FI chose his best friend and I chose my future sister in law as I knew she would be there.  I wanted to ask some of my other closer friends but Im glad I didnt as they arent coming anyways. 

Its always a touch decision and looking back I wish we would have had none, but rather just witnesses.  It would have been cheaper and also less headaches.  Good luck with your decision!

Originally Posted by JayKay 

 

This was something that I really pondered when deciding whether or not to have a bridal party and if I did who would I choose.  Because I have moved around quite a bit I have lost contact with some friends.  My other close friends are spead all over the country and its hard to all get together.  We do have a bridal party, one each.  My FI chose his best friend and I chose my future sister in law as I knew she would be there.  I wanted to ask some of my other closer friends but Im glad I didnt as they arent coming anyways. 

 

Its always a touch decision and looking back I wish we would have had none, but rather just witnesses.  It would have been cheaper and also less headaches.  Good luck with your decision!

I agree with the less going on the less headaches. I decided to try to get our nieces involved in the AHR and it has become my latest reason for my love of wine. Trying to get six different girls and their mothers to agree on a dress is torture. If i had this to do over again....I would skip it

I spoke to my fiance last night and we decided to skip the whole Bridal party thing since it will be just easier and less headache. We will ask our family/friends to sign as witnesses and that would be enough. Thank you everyone for good advises and great ideas.

Originally Posted by kat2012 

 

I spoke to my fiance last night and we decided to skip the whole Bridal party thing since it will be just easier and less headache. We will ask our family/friends to sign as witnesses and that would be enough. Thank you everyone for good advises and great ideas.

Glad we could help you make a decision....Now on to next, right? lol