My fiance and I are doing a DW in Nov. 2011, just the two of us. I am getting a ton of mixed ideas from friends and family about a shower. I am not sure if it is appropriate to have a shower...since no one is invited to our DW (we want it to be intimate, just the two of us). We are having an AHR upon our return and inviting everyone, approximately 100 guests. So, is it okay to have a shower, being that people won't be at our actual wedding, but will be invited to an AHR to celebrate our union upon our arrival home?? I am so confused!! The DW was supposed to be less stressful! ha