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You're not going to like my advice, but I have to open my big mouth. DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!! It doesn't matter if you pay your balance every month or not, you're still inviting to much stress into your life, and you're just asking for Murphy to come knocking on your door at the worst time. CC companies flat out don't offer the points/rewards like the used to, and their are so many restricitons on claiming your points/rewards that their almsot useless. I've seen multiple reward and point CC's shut down in the past 2 years b/c of this economic mess. My advice, pay off ALL your debt and NEVER go back.

You're pics are beautiful! They are truely goregous! PS - I'm a little jelous that you got married at the Xcaret b/c I really wanted to get married there too, but they were all booked up This is it ladies - after today we'll all be married women! Congratulations to all the April brides out there, we made it through alive!

#2 - If you're positive you're going to remove the underlay then I think you'll end up ruining the dress and not getting the results that you're looking for. Atlest #2 is slighter and more cool to wear so you won't be to hot. Personally, I don't like corsets, and imo if you're going to spend so much money on a dress and then spend more for alterations and changes, then you probably haven't found the right one yet.

The Golf of Mexico carries water in a clock-wise movement, so the waters from Mexico get carried to the MX/TX border, which get carried to Houston, which gets carried to LA, which gets carried to FL, down the coast and then eventually kind of floats back out into the big water. I wouldn't worry about it to much if you're getting married in Mexico, it's just not how the water travels.

I'm so sorry ladies, I guess I had misunderstood what you meant by having a reception at the lobster pot. Yes - their is a a seperate area off of the big area for dinner, so it's like a gazebo off of a gazebo, if that makes any sense, lol. It is secluded, during the night and the day b/c of all the growth around, so it makes it rather intimate. However, the big gazebo, or the main part of the lobster pot, is right next to it, so it's not private. The picture above shows the walkway shooting off of the main gazebo and to the little gazebo. Sorry if I'm non making any sense or making it worse!!! p.s. - I have the dinner menue options that I plan on posting with my review. AND all of the flower, cake, chuppah, etc options.

LOL I agree w/ Abby, if that's back fat I'm in big trouble too!!!! It's called skin, not fat, and I think your gorgeous in your dress!

Missyri - the terrace will definitly hold more people than the lobster pot, and as far as I know, the lobster pot is not available for receptions for large parties. There are a few options for reception sites, but again, if you're having a larger party, you'll probably want to be at the terrace. It was way to big for us to use, but I've seen some good size receptions held there as well. Another reason why I wouldn't recommend the lobster pot is because it's basically a giant gazebo split in half; half of it is the lobster pot and the other half is the steak restuarant. The lobster pot also was not my favorite meal while we were there, not that it was bad, but it was't my favorite. I will be writing my review of the VIM this weekend, and I'll post a link to it here as well as several pictures. :-)

YAY Tracy's home! Sorry I've been on the dl for a while... we had quite the weekend, my husband has gone out of town AGAIN! and we're getting our floors put in this weekend and I have to to paint my kitchen and get the concrete prepped before then. Oh, and on top of it all I've had a nose bleed for 3 day, been on my period for 2 f*ing weeks... I've never had a period this bad before in my life, I just want to curl up in the fetal position in the tub and not leave the house. AND I've been having massive leg cramps every night to the point I wake up screaming in my sleep and can barely walk the next day. AND my favorite music/drunk festival all the year sucked up the a$s and ruined my all my excitement about the whole stupid thing... did I mention my husband is out of town again he's also decided that he needs a new job pronto b/c he can't do this one (he's an enviromental scientist and tests emissions from smoke stacks at coal plants so he climbs like 500 ft in the air and it scared the piss out of him) so he completely freaked out the other day, but he's got another offer on the table with a diff company so his feet will be firmly on the ground. But that means that I can't quit my horrible (read God awful) pos "job" until he gets this funk straigtened out and I'm totally upset about it. His dad's having some type of problems and he's been going to the dr's for a week now. He can't really feel his left side and he's lost a lot of his energy and they can't figure out what's wrong with him. It sounds to me that he's having some type of little stroke or something. Oh - and his mom told us this weekend that a long time family friend and someone that we love sooooooooooooooooooo much that has been in the hospital with cancer, that it would take a miracle for her to get well. basically, she is going to die, they've done everything they can for her and if this last round of treatment doesn't work, then it's just quality of life. Fan-fucking-tastic. Sorry, I don't usually swear or rant, I've just kinda had enough.

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Quote: Originally Posted by TLC4Rock my color theme is peacock so anyone with sashes in blue, turquoise or green...please let me know! I bought the wrong color sashes that would work well with your peacock theme! I only have 10, but they're in royal blue. I also have 1 roll (3 feet wide and 10 or 12 feet long) of the same color fabric for a chuppah. I actually bought this color intentionally b/c the pics online looked more like a midnight blue, which is the same color that I used for our wedding. Let me know if anyone is interested! AWESOME idea

We did a single stem rose on the table for each loved one lost, and one single stem rose for all of our family and friends that couldn't make it to our wedding. The officient said what they stood for after the opening, and announced all of our loved ones names. It was really sweet and everyone was in tears, but it's a good thing to do when you have lost loved ones.

We have 2 wedding bands a piece, but I guess our situtiaon is a little bit different. I never heard of having one on each side, how neat! My mom gave me my grandmothers wedding band on our wedding day, just as my grandmother had done to my mom. I wore her band on my pinky during the whole ceremony b/c it doesn't fit my fat hands. DH put my wedding band that we had made for my e-ring on as normal for the ceremony. I plan on wearing my grandmothers band interchangably as my wedding band or a right hand ring. We'll see how it goes once it fits! I gave DH his grandfathers wedding band as a surprise gift before the ceremony. However, DH actually made his own wedding band a few years prior. I think he was a little confused on what he was suppose to do and had some mixed emotions on which he should wear... lol! He ended up using the band that he made during the ceremony so that it would be blessed, but he uses his grandfathers wedding band every day just b/c it's so special to him. He figured since the ring he made has already been blessed that we can give it to a future kid/grandkid and continue to use his grandfathers band. Or, maybe we'll melt the one he made down and size my grandmother ring up....

Jodi - I'm so sorry to hear that you had to change your wedding plans, but atleast you're getting married! Everything will work out for the best Big hugs!!!! Natasha - Happy sailing! Tracy - I must be out of the loop, but I don't see any pics Did I miss something?? ewok - I'm not back to normal either, and we have been go go go ever since we got home. Not that fun at all. I hope everyone leaving this weekend has a great/safe trip. You will all be beautiful and your wedding will be everything and more then you ever expected! We're going out of town & won't be back until Sunday, so y'all have fun!

hmmm, I have mixed emotions about this, but if it's what flickers your ticker have at it... interesting idea, but just not for us.

LOVE your dress! So darn beautiful! IMO the back jewlery would take away from how beautiful this dress really is. As for the bra, I would look for the ones that you can be sewn into the dress for lift and support. I have big girls too and they work well for me every time. If you want a veil I would look for a finger tipth length with lace along the edge to match the dress... gorgous!

Honestly, I wore nothing but the dress... While dress shopping I made sure to find something that wasn't strapless for the girls (size d-dd depending upon the time of the month). My dress had an open back and dipped real low in the front, but it had chiffan straps that criss-crossed down my back to kind of act as support. But my dress was so light and flowy that you literally see any color fabric underneath, and the lines of everything that I tried on. So, I went nakie. That night we got back to the room and took a shower and I changed into lingerie that dh had bought for me before we left

Quote: Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO That stinks that your coworker said that to you! Next time tell her to mind her business! LOL Over the next year you may face some bumps in the road in terms of planning & ideas you have & people trying to tell you what you should & should not do. I think that as long as you keep this as your motto "yup. its what i want, who cares what ppl might say, as long as we're happy" you'll be fine!!! Best advice EVER! Not weird at all, btw. My dad and I aren't that close but I still wanted him to walk me down the isle. He didn't "give me away" tho, I don't believe in that kind of stuff... I'm not a piece of property that can be given away to begin with.

We stayed together the night before, this tradition was just kind of silly to us. We already live together, and honestly, those were the moments that I wanted him around the most so I would have been miserable if we didn't stay together. Do what feels right to you. Most resorts will offer a complimentary room for the groom the night before the wedding if they have availability.

Sounds like exactly what happened to us! We bought a house and I told him that he might as well propose then b/c he was stuck w/ me the moment we signed the papers. He actually did buy a ring w/o me knowing about it so that was good, and it didnt' take nearly as long as I orginally thought it was going to. Long story short, I had half of our wedding planned (date, location, everything) w/o a ring. Sometimes boys just take a while to get the hint.

At our wedding we said adults only and we meant it. No kids. Period. Of course several people were upset, mainly my sil b/c they couldn't bring their 1 yo twins which also meant that they couldn't come to our dw, but that's just how it goes. My brother couldn't bring his 3 kids either. I think you should be honest with the mom and let her know how you feel and what your concerns are. Make sure to have a few backup plans just incase baby M gets cranky. It doesn't make you a baby hater just b/c you don't want kids around.

Quote: Originally Posted by SuzyQ76 Hoyt - I couldn't get on to your pics site? maybe I'll try again! Sorry, it took me a bit to figure it out too... 1) type in JMCGANN in the box that pops up and select go 2) select 'start proofing' in the next pop up 3) select 'ok' in the next pop up 4) click on on the sets in the boxes on the top left. some of the pics may take a while to load, or maybe my comp is just old, but they will appear below and you can scroll over to change pics. let me know if it works!

Here's the link to my pro pics: http://cancunphotosgallery.com/darkroom/proof If it asks for a password its' JMCGANN I never realized how much I look like my parents... and it's a little scary...

Erin - Congrats on your legal day!!! YAY Haven't had a chance to look through everyone's pics yet, but I'm working on it... I bet they're all gorgeous! Just got my pro pics yesterday and I'm still going through them... so when I'm done looking at all of them I'll post! Tracy - I' m sorry that your special day didn't go exactly as planned, but I'm sure it all worked out for the best. When are you coming back It seems like you've been gone forever girl! Yes, we felt like a celebrity the whole time that we were there too... everywhere we went that week people would stop us and say, "hey I saw you're wedding, it was so beautiful!" I thought it was pretty cool. We were famous for a week, haha!

No offense taken Tammy. The way I see it, I've already offended plenty of people by doing a dw and then deciding to have our ahr at a brewery, so tickin' off a few more isn't a big deal. We don't really care what people think about us or what they're going to say. People will talk regardless of what happens. I think their are plenty of us out there at use the term ahr loosely, ranging from full blown fancy reception to backyard bbq with family and friends. I agree with everyone else tho - if you're going to have a big ahr and want to be more formal then it's not right to stick the food cost on your guests. In our situation we're still paying for all the food, we just asked a handful of people to make the dishes that they're well known for. Example, we have a close family friend that makes the best brisket we've ever had. We asked before hand if he would be willing to cook if we were willing to pay for the food, and he said okay. But, he does this kind of stuff all the time for lots of people, so it probably wasn't a big deal to him. My point is that you do whatever makes you feel comfortable, regardless of what your family, friends or bdw thinks. Nobody said you had to follow the 'rules'.

You do what you want and ignore everything else! You can't make everyone happy, so don't even waste your time trying, and no matter what, someone will find something to complain about. We got a lot of hurtful comments about running away too, but we stood our ground. It came mostly from the people that we least expected it from too. I'm sorry that you have to go through it, but I think most dw brides go through some form of criticism or guilt trip. Wendy - my mil wanted us to get married in their backyard too! How aweful...