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Quote: Originally Posted by KarenM So, the solid fuchsia tie is from amazon Amazon.com: BRAND NEW Mens Necktie Solid Fuchsia Pink Satin Neck TIE: Clothing the striped one is from cheapneckties Pink Neckties Pink & Fuchsia Striped Tie - ties shop - fine stripes then here's a different striped one Striped Mens Tie in White, Fuchsia, and Pink - ties shop - patterned stripes Check out this site - they have several pink ties (including that striped one) Pink Neckties - Coral Ties, Fuchsia Ties, Hot Pink Ties hope you guys find one you like! You are the best!!!!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by IrishgirlinNY I know exactly what you are talking about and dealing with. I have my dad, sister and brother. My brother has his own life with his wife and son and my sister has my niece. I also live with my FMIL. We are doing it to save money as well. You never know what life is like without your mom until it happens, and it cant be worse. Life is never the same and there is never a normal. There is just a new normal that you absolutely dread on a day to day basis. Sorry this is so depressing. Having a rough day. My fiance and his mom argue all the time and I say the same thing. It is life changing when you lose your mom. Planning your wedding would be different if she was here, I know and understand. We have to deal with what life has dealt us no matter how hard it is. We just have to lean on the people we can (your fiance) and plan a wedding our moms would dream of us having. I think our moms will be so happy for us on our wedding day! I know they will be watching from above!

I totally understand you! My in laws (actually I really like them..not his sis but...) At firstt his mom told me not to worry about money...she said it over and over again. To me that means that they were going to help with the wedding so we didnt have to do a DW. When we found out it was gonna be about 30k..compared to his sisters which was 50k..lol My FI said its either the house or the wedding. I was so upset .... Never again did my MIL mention anything about $ again...lol When we decided to do a DW because of the cost..she kept saying for us not 2. That we needed to have the wedding where we live.... So show me the $$$$$$$$$$$ lol Not to mention they have told their friends they are helping us when my FI has already payed for everything...lol

Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart Haha I know right! She assures me she won't let him knock her up until afterwards but that's not too easy to control when not on birth control. Yeah my MOH has two kids as well and is trying to figure out all these difficult alternatives and staying in a timeshare etc. Drives me mad. Extended family hasn't responded at all to anything I've sent out, fine, my mom and brother don't have the money and don't seem like they want to come. I told my mother I'd pay for the entire trip and a new bathings suit as well to see what she'd say and her response is, "well, I don't like flying either." So I'm thinking she doesn't want to come. It's terribly upsetting to me but if she doesn't want to be there, why should I force her and waste my own money. My father passed away years ago so he's really the only one with a legitimate excuse I dont know if you would be interested but I ordered a charm with a pic of my mom and I to attach to my boquet for the wedding. I'ts small, really pretty, a nice keepsake, and it was made really well (not cheap looking) . I ordered it from exclusivelyweddings.com in the memorial items section. None of my extended family has even said a word! Eventhough they are all on my facebook! They didnt even say anything about my invitation which were really nice and different. Oh well!

Quote: Originally Posted by Positanobride10 My biggest stress factor has been worrying about my dogs and graduate school. I have two boxers and my Fiance doesn't want to board them since we'll be out of the country for 3 weeks. All of my friends are married and some have kids so they would not be able to come house sit. My vet told me to call her when were are a few months out to see if there was a vet tech who could house/dog sit. Also, I am getting my MBA. Planning a wedding, dieting (to get just 5 lbs off), working full-time and going to school at night is hard. But I think it will be worth it. I am also trying to stay positive about finding someone to stay with my fur babies. All of my guests have been family and a few friends. Getting them to book was easy. I did all the research and gave them options on our private website. To my surprise everyone has plane tickets to Rome, and plans on meeting us there to site see and travel to Positano together. I was shocked that this fell into place. I anticipated this being the biggest stress factor. My english bulldog (Rebus) is 9 months old and he is my baby! My clients husb is our vet and she told me she had a great pet sitter. I trust her opinion but this is my son..lol So I decided that I needed to go see this pet sitter and where my baby would be staying. You never know what kind of people they could be...lol I also decided that he should stay there for a weekend to see how he would do without mommy and daddy. To make a long story short when I dropped him off for the weekend ..he didnt even look back at me! lol When we picked him up...we both went inside and he didnt even notice us..lol Sad but true he likes her dogs better then us...lol Needless to say i feel 100 percent comfortable leaving him there for our wedding now! I also found out she works at our vet as well...so to me that is the best! She is kinda $$ $30 a day I worried about him more when I had a friend stay at our house to watch him ..then I did leaving him with her. I would go to the vet techs house and check it out, at least you know that they love dogs,esp if they work at your vet

Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart I have this issue too!! My sister in law is due next week, one of my BEST FRIENDS planned the whole trip and found out she was pregnant and due 2 days before my wedding. It's so hard being happy for people when you're disappointed in the circumstance. Also, one of my bridesmaid's husbands is constantly telling her he's going to get her pregnant and I hate to have to be weary of this!!! lol - does'nt this just seem to get better by the day! I even started a thread SIL help lol I have been told that I should'nt care if she's prego, I should be happy, that I'm focused to much on her, that her pregnancy will overshadow my wedding but I should'nt even care. I got put in my place really quick lol oh oh and because she had a miscarriage (which she doesnt know that I know about because she didnt tell me) that I should be more understanding. If you dont tell me anything, why should I act any different? I was even told this day isnt about me. I kinda thought it was lol In a way all the comments have helped even if I dont agree with all of them. In the end Im gonna look great in my dress and have a great time drinking when she cant. My Mother in law also told me to stop loosing weight! You would think I had an eating disorder by the speech she gave me..lol It's not my fault your daughter didnt loose weight for her wedding and it upset you...I'm healthy, happy and know that the time is now to take care of myself! Esp. when we plan to have a kid its very important to be in shape. ok..i have vented enough..lol

Quote: Originally Posted by IMPPEARL It is his sister.... she should be there.... I guess I should have mentioned she's only 22 and is on her third child (4 if you count her husband’s with another woman) this is why they are so financially strapped. They have this crazy idea that the more kids they have eventually the kids will be paying for them and make them money!!! I wouldn’t begrudge his if they weren’t so far off in their thinking... Oh well he loves her anyway and really wants her there so I guess our "gift" is essentially having her there, thought the financial help would have been nice also... Needless to say I do sympathize with this situation! My in laws have been telling their friends the reason why my FI dad got a job (he's retired) is because of our wedding...lol They failed to mention that before he retired they gave their daughter a 50k wedding, are going on a $1500 a night cruise the month before our wedding...lol I could start a new thread just on them...lol They are really nice people and I do like them a lot regardless of their quirks, but hey Im not perfect either ; ) I so wish my mom was gonna be here for my wedding..I truly believe if she was I wouldnt care so much about his sisters situation or his families. My family only consists of my sister and dad...so I look for that attention in his family and from his mom. I even lived with them for about 6 months before we bought our house, needless to say i think that made things worse with SIL. She would always say, why are you making that (food dish) for jo? She would look at me and say, do you know how long that takes to make? I think it bothers her that I am in the same city with her parents and she had to move a couple of hours away. You never know what you truly have until you loose it! So when I hear my FI say something, or talk back to his mom..I tell him, be happy you have her even if she annoys you. One day you will miss her annoying ways!

Quote: Originally Posted by KarenM I love the idea! Are the groomsmen wearing ties too? Maybe have them wear fuchsia and he could wear a striped tie? or vice-versa something like this? I like the striped one for the other guys! Where did you find that pic

Congrats and welcome!

Quote: Originally Posted by Shinbinea Not sure if anyone on here can help with this or if I just need to be patient and wait for an answer from the resort. Does anyone happen to know how many updo's the resort is able to handle for one wedding party? I have a total of 7 ladies(including me) right now that want their hair done for the wedding and I'm just curious if the resort can handle it or if I am going to have to start picking which bridesmaid can do their own hair and which should have a pro do it I emailed the lady for the hair and makeup appointments already which she said she would confirm with me in Jan. I think I have like 5 doing hair and makeup and she didnt say they couldnt handel it. I just made sure that I made the appointments early enough incase they were running late. ( someone on a post here commented that they ran a little late) I also scheduled a hair trial for myself the day I arrive...my make up I can fix...my hair is another story

Quote: Originally Posted by KimmyG I'm not married yet BUT I've already learned: Don't pick your bridesmaids and announce them on your wedding website until they've booked (or you're 100% sure they'll make it)... It caused me a lot of hurt/heartache for 2 (out of 3) of my BMs to tell me they don't think they can make it. Anyone else I ask will know they're second choice since I already had posted pics of the wedding party on the website. Glad I didn't buy their dresses for them as I was planning on doing! ..looking back and reflecting, my mistake was that i *told* them they were my bridesmaids, rather than asking if they would do it. hmm. I totally understand..I started with 6 and now Im down to 3...lol One even told me the day the money was due for the dresses...which the store gave prices according to how many dresses we ordered. So we ended up changing the flower girl to a jr. bridesmaid and had to pay for it.

Im doing fushia I dont know how to post pics on here...but my BM dresses are from watters style #418. Watters | A Design Driven Company Specializing In Innovative Fashions For Brides, Bridesmaids, Young Mothers Of The Bride And Groom, Junior Bridesmaids And Flower Girls

I would love to see your dress 2!

Quote: Originally Posted by IMPPEARL I feel for you completely! Your happy for them obviously, but can't help feeling a little anxious!? To make a long story short my FI has 3 sisters 2 of whom are now prego, 1 of which is in my wedding party. She'll only be about 3 months along, but she is only a month along now and already starting to show. I'm just hoping that she'll fit into her dress, its already as big as it can go! I don't know what I'll do if it doesn't fit... As for his other sister she'll be about 52 weeks along... but at least she is still going. With the new pregnancy and all they said they couldn't afford to go at all, so my FI asked his parents to not get us a wedding gift and help his sister to attend. Her husband is staying home with the other 2 kids and she is joining us with the help of her parents. He loves his family and wants them to all be there, it just sucks that he had to give up them helping us out with some of the cost. But understandable all the same. Wow that is really nice of your FI and yourself to give up your gift to help his sister come to the wedding. Destination weddings can be very $$$ for the guests to attend. I hope you have a wonderful and beautiful wedding!

Quote: Originally Posted by Melidell It sounds like you've been trying really hard with his sister (maybe a bit too hard, to be honest) and it may be time to take a step back. Why were you the one who was buying her gifts- she's FI's sister and he should be in charge of this and if he doesn't take care of it, it shouldn't get done. Personally, I would hate it if I got a gift from my brother that I knew he had no part in choosing (I'd know- I've know him a long time lol). With her wedding it sounds like you did some really nice things for her but they were a bit over the top- you shouldn't feel like you have to buy her stuff to get her to like you. I can only speak from my own perspective as a sister but if my brother was seeing someone who was that worried about me liking her- well, I'd like her a bit less because I hate feeling pressured and part of me would wonder why she was trying so hard. As for the pregnancy, it has nothing to do with you so why take it personally? At the end of the day she has her life and you have yours- forget about her and what she's doing and focus on the great things that are happening for you right now. I agree with what a lot of other posters have said: it is not a contest, you are two different people. He warned me from the beg. that he was more afraid for me to meet her then his parents..lol I like to do things for other people but with her I might have done 2 much, now that I look back. At the time my heart was in the right place and I thought I was doing the right thing. I felt bad that her girl friends/bridesmaids didnt do much for her so I guess I stepped in and did 2 much. Now I see why she doesnt have girl friends except ones who live in different states. I am trying hard to focus on the positive and I think this thread has helped me a lot

He decided that he wants to wear a beige tux (it looks just like s suite) The bridesmaids are wearing fushia...other hints of colors will be light pink and green. He has a best man, my dad and his dad. I would prefer that he is a little different from the other guys..any ideas? Does anyone know of any good tie stores?

welcome

Quote: Originally Posted by DDBentley15 This site has some good ideas: Mother Son Dance Songs - Project Wedding I'm thinking about using simple man, shinedown does a good cover of it that might be different. I also like your song by elton john. Great website! Thanks

Im so sorry for your loss! My english bulldog is like my son...yes pets do have a special place in our hearts Just remember the good things and times you had with your cat!

I would keep it all!!! Your dress is beautiful!!! I would honestly just wear some chandelier earrings to bring attention to your face since your dress is so sparkly!The focus is you! I would want to notice your face first and then look down and comment what a stunning gown! Do they have earrings to match that set? I would wear the necklace for another event that you might have...maybe the dinner the night before? And the bracelet would be great to wear with anything on your trip

Where can I begin.... every one is prego! We have at least 4 or 5 couples. Including my sis in law. Then some people cant afford it...but we gave plenty enough time for them to save money and I know some of their economic situations havent changed. In the end ...I have started not to care! who goes .... goes and who doesnt? Missed out on a lot of fun

Quote: Originally Posted by Lizz I agree with both of the above. Regardless of the other problems you are having with your SIL, her pregnancy is something that I would think you should be happy about. It's not up to you to determine how soon she should get pregnant after a miscarriage. You should try to be the bigger person and be happy for her and her baby even if she's acting like she's not happy about your wedding. This wedding is about you and your FI. It's so easy to get wrapped up in it but you have to realize that everyone else has other things happening in their lives and your wedding won't always take precedence. Best of luck to you! As far as she knows Im happy ..Maybe I would be happier (inside) if she were nice to me. Its just hard and I am human...I was there for her wedding and now that its mine I guess I expected something. Who knows maybe the baby will maker her nice

Quote: Originally Posted by carolina24 Ok, I understand that you want this to be your day and it really sucks that she's been so negative about things, but you can't be upset that she's pregnant so soon, that's her life, not yours. I also think that a wedding is about the couple!! I'm not a fan of having bridesmaids b/c you have to include someone. She has said horrible things about you as a couple and there is no need for you to put up with that for the sake of the family. In the end she is their daughter and her pregancy is going to overshadow your wedding, it sucks but it's the truth. On the other hand, the pregnancy is a perfect way for you to veto her as a BM (in a nice way). In the end, you are going to have to be the bigger person and decide how you want your day to be. Let go of the negative and focus on you and your FI, you're the only ones that really matter!! If I had to do my bridesmaids over ...I would have just picked my Sister. I had 6...one is prego with twins and due on my wedding day, another has her cuz destination wedding the month after mine and cant afford 2 weddings, the last girl (my godmother) backed out the day the money was due for the dresses...lol I know her pregancy will over - shadow our wedding because I know how she is. I also know there is nothing I can do about it. Its just gonna take some time ... and venting about it really helps

Hmmm...guess I should have written this a little bit better then I did. These are just some bits and pieces of things that have happened. During her wedding I had only know my FI maybe a couple of months. I helped her with her bridal shower, I took her to MAC and payed for the make up they used. They picked out a $300 dress at saks that they called me telling me I had to buy for her wedding. I Felt bad that they didnt have a bachlorette party for her so I went to an adult store and bought her $400 worth of fun stuff and took her out to eat.To be honest..I want his sis to like me, she is a couple years younger then me and we got along really well at first. After her wedding things changed? I asked her several times over a period of time if there was anything wrong? I tried to be the adult and confront her and talk things out. She always told me everything was fine. I even confronted her about what happened at our engagement party...there is alittle more to the story. When I told my FI what she had said he finally couldnt take it anymore and told his parents. His mom started crying and said my SI said things that I supp. said about my mother in law...which wasnt true. So I called his mom and apologized for the things that were supp said. I didnt want to blame anyone for anything. When i did confront his sis she started crying saying that I took her brother away from her? I said you are married and have your house and dogs? The way she talks you would think they hang out all the time..which they dont even go to lunch. If it wasnt for me she wouldnt get any phone calls or anything from him..because he's not too good at that stuff. I'm the one who buys her gifts ...when she doesnt get us anything. And it isnt about a gift...she could send a card or could have helped with our engagement party. Needles to say....I stopped and I hardly do anything. As far as her being prego...I did say that I hope she has a healthy pregnancy and baby. I am not supposed to know she had a miscarriage. The only reason i found out was because she kept not calling in the measurements for her bridesmaid dress. I kept sending little reminders via text and email and finally I had to tell my FI to call his mom. An hour before the store closed her measurements were turned in. If she had told me that she thought she was prego or anything I would have not kept sending emails/texts and bothering her. If she would just communicate with me! I cant feel sorry for her when she doesnt tell me things. She doesnt know know that Im upset ..I hugged her and told her congrats when she ran in with the preg. stick! I always try and do the right thing with her even when I don't feel like it. I was just using this blog to vent because theses are thoughts and feelings that I cant say. At her wedding she got pissed that her cuz wife was prego...even though his wife waited till after her wedding to announce it. My FI has 2 sets of friends that are waiting till after our wedding to start ....they said our wedding is the practice The one wife told me that it meant the world to them to see their friend get married and they wouldnt miss this for anything. I think we are very blessed to have them in our life!

Quote: Originally Posted by carolina24 Ok, I understand that you want this to be your day and it really sucks that she's been so negative about things, but you can't be upset that she's pregnant so soon, that's her life, not yours. I also think that a wedding is about the couple!! I'm not a fan of having bridesmaids b/c you have to include someone. She has said horrible things about you as a couple and there is no need for you to put up with that for the sake of the family. In the end she is their daughter and her pregancy is going to overshadow your wedding, it sucks but it's the truth. On the other hand, the pregnancy is a perfect way for you to veto her as a BM (in a nice way). In the end, you are going to have to be the bigger person and decide how you want your day to be. Let go of the negative and focus on you and your FI, you're the only ones that really matter!! Its hard but I have been trying