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  1. Quote: Originally Posted by KJT1985 I'm mad at my cousin for being so stupid and selfish to think that his actions don't affect other people. EEK! wow that is a hardcore statement - if he has a drug problem i am sure he is not doing it on purpose. Don't they give a shit about me at all? Do I have to become a drug addict or mentally unstable to get some attention? actually since you are supposed to be healthy and stable YOU are supposed to be able to move through your life without acting out to get attention. families generally do rally around people who need more help than others, b/c frankly they need more help than others. The whole deal with my cousin isn't THAT serious either. dude that is messed up. how do you know? most people who smoke pot don't wind up in the ER. i am sure he is into other drugs and he clearly has mental issues. how about some empathy? Everybody knows he's a huge pothead and he's now on lithium for his mental health. He's been in rehab and every few months he ends up in the ER because he's gone a little kooky. I just can't believe that we're two months out and they think its too far in advance to book with what's going on with him. I How can be people be so selfish?! I say that and I feel like i'm the one being selfish right now... :-( you are definitely being selfish IMO. your wedding is a really important day (mostly to you and your FI) and should no doubt be amazing but other peoples (even your really close family) lives don't stop b/c someone is getting married. seriously Quote: Originally Posted by CristiandJamie Plus your cousin constantly messing up is really the selfish one and probably does it to get attention. I sometimes think that babying someone with an addiction is the worst thing you can do because they know you will give them attention if they screw up (over and over again)! you clearly know nothing about addiction. I'm with you sister! Cristi
  2. Quote: Originally Posted by Mrs. Martin I just have to say that reading Alyssa's post completely cracked me up because it was exactly what I was thinking as I was reading the rest of these posts. When I was planning my wedding, my two closest cousins were not able to make it because they had just had babies and my best friend couldn't make it because she was pregnant. NEVER ONCE did I question the fact that they couldn't come, I completely understood. I knew my wedding wasn't going to be less special because they were absent. Guess what, I had a great time and moved on. It amazes me how many threads there actually are on this topic! We've all been through the planning part where we sometimes feel like our wedding is the most important event in the world. Well it's not to others and it's important to be respectful of that because starting a family is 100 times more important than a wedding. BTW- For those of you who don't understand this will do so when you have a baby because EVERYTHING changes. Matthew is SO CUTE!!!! damn he is getting big!
  3. Quote: Originally Posted by bholthof You know what I don't get?? I don't understand why having an infant or being pregnant would cause people to not go?? seriously? there are SO MANY reasons i honestly can't believe you can't understand / empathize with other people's decisions. Ok - if you're due on or near the wedding - yes that makes sense. Or if you JUST had the baby right before the wedding - like a month or so within the wedding date. But people who are only a few months prego can still fly... and can still go on vacation. Same with people with small infants. Most family friendly hotels will still accomodate infants. My SIL will be bringing her 5 month old. Its like some people will use any excuse, you know?? (Again, this statement doesn't apply to people with difficult pregnancies, or who literally JUST had a child, or are due on or around the wedding date. Obviously, they can't travel. Its just teh ones who use it as an excuse not to travel that get me.) first off have you ever considered that having a baby significantly impacts your finances? and that right before or after giving birth might not be the best time to drop a couple thousand dollars on a vacation? hello! now if you are paying for their trip then i get it but if not this conversation is so beyond ridiculous i can barely stand it. in additon, having a child not only changes your body but your hormones and mind and some people need to adjust to that HUGE life change. also, some people only get a couple of weeks / months off for maternity leave and may want to spend that first couple months of their new child's life aclimating and preparing for going back to work. ok there are so many other reasons but the biggest reason is that our weddings our not other people's #1 priority. it is so self centered to "expect" that others will think our weddings are as important as we do. i obviously had a DW and at that time 2 of the people in our wedding party got pregnant. My DH and I were so happy for them and never felt like they were using an "excuse" - ummm yeah they were living their OWN lives - that doesn't mean that they weren't happy for us or trying to ruin our wedding. ok last thing - there are like 30 threads about this already.
  4. i am moving this thread to the appropriate sub-forum. please re-read the FAQ (in my siggy) and reivew "where to post" thanks, alyssa
  5. Quote: Originally Posted by diamondpooch I totally understand that he will one day become wrinkly and lose his hair and possibly be peeing his pants too! but those are nature taking course and unavoidable. Being healthy is a choice I thought we agreed upon in the beginning of our relationship. I was only looking for advice on a not so odd topic and now ppl are fighting so just nevermind!!! I appreciate eeryine outlook! I really do! I have been thinking them all over today and I actually feel better about it all, so that's good! What I love about bdw is how open and honest we r with helping each other during our most special time in our lives and I didn't intend for my thread to cause hostility!!!! Truly all the comments, nice and not so nice, have helped me today to look at things another way and I thank u all for that. that is great to hear! i hope it all works out with your FI and you reach an understanding. Quote: Originally Posted by KJT1985 I'm sorry. I really didn't mean for it to be rude. It was supposed to be a joke and a compliment... :-( ok no problem. listen ladies i am going to close this thread b/c i think that diamondpooch has what she needs and i don't want it turning into any more drama and misunderstandings.
  6. Quote: Originally Posted by KJT1985 Hehe I also love how its the pretty people who are saying "it shouldn't matter". ;-) this statement is really uncalled for and rude. you have absolutely NO IDEA what individual people's issues have been and are about weight and being "pretty" or good looking is irrelevant to having an opinon.
  7. Quote: Originally Posted by diamondpooch He is genetically predisposed to this, and unless I go to the gym with him or force him to go, he just doesn't care. Ugh. hhhmmm, well this implies that you knew this when you started dating. i wouldn't say that you are a "horrible person" but i would strongly suggest you take a close look at your relationship and / or yourself. to say that you are embarrassed of your FI is pretty strong and to me (my opinion) is indicitive of an insecurity either in yourself or caring what others think way too much. when i met my DH he had a slamming body and was super hot- he is still gorgeous but since i've been preggo he has gained some 'baby weight' lol. i love him no matter what and would never be embarrassed of him. i love HIM for all he is inside and out and sometimes we fluctuate in our weight depending on life circumstances, etc. if my DH ever told me that he was embarrassed of me or wanted to me to lose weight i would lose a lot of respect for him, think it was degrading and frankly think he was a real f*#@ing asshole! now with all that being said if you are talking about health concerns, like getting type 2 diabetes or a major lifestyle changes like someone who used to work out 5 days a week and now is a couch potato and sits around smoking then those are valid and concerns for your partner's health and well-being and not just vanity and superficial concerns.
  8. Quote: Originally Posted by Erika J OMG, I am totes convinced on the boat tour, I love boat anything. We are thinking (these are all maybe's) Splurging and doing a helicopter tour, zip lining or maybe and eco tour. Hiking on our own well the Boat Tour and Helicopter are both very unique vantage points of the NaPali Coast - we opted for the Boat tour b/c it is more involved and you get to be on the water, see the sunset, etc. they also have 'snorkeling boat tours' that might be perfect for you guys! i would recommend one or the other b/c they are both not cheap and tour the same area. We love to snorkle so we usually do that every morning. then acitiviy the rest of the day. And lots of delish eating every where. snorkeling is available everywhere but we thought the Hanalei Bay area beaches (N. Shore) were the best. Also, Hanalei Bay has the best restaurants for sure! let me know if you need any more info!!!
  9. Quote: Originally Posted by Erika J Okay, I am special as usual, the sheraton is in Poipu, so that might be a good base for like 3 nights and then maybe 2 nights in princeville? Or 2 and 2? Prob something like that. i would do 2 nights at Sheraton Poipu and 3 nights at Westin Princeville - in that order if you can. also when you arrange for your rental car - get a convertible - they are like $10 more a day and worth every penny! do you want to plan activities or just go there and figure it out? some things i would definitely do would be hiking in the Waimea Canyon and a Boat Trip (AMAZING to see the cliffs from this vantage point) to the NaPali Coast - these are both done from the Southern side so while you would be staying at Poipu. then when staying on the North Shore i would do some day drives (so many beautiful waterfalls and beaches and the scenery is amazing on the North side), check out the town of Kapaa, if you are up for it, some rigorous hiking in the NaPali Coast (different viewpoints than the boat tour), relaxing, massages, great restaurants in Hanalei Bay! can i come?
  10. Quote: Originally Posted by Erika J Yay, I am so excited, so we are def going to kaanapali, maui from 13th to the following Sun (with IL's and aunt and uncle) . Then we will prob hang with E's family a few days upcountry in Kula at the farm, then We are going to island hop to kuai for a few days on our own. E's parent offered to give us points to use for the westin (princeville) or the sheraton (lihue) , I havent done enought research yet to know what I want to do. But I think we will prob do the north shore for more days and then maybe one or two nights on a diff part of the island? Erika the Westin in Princeville is really nice!!! you can explore all of the North Shore with that as your base Do you think that is necissary, or just easier to drive around and do day trips? it's a pretty small island BUT the main road doesn't go all the way around b/c of the NaPali coast so you can't circle the Island. We stayed half the week on the South Shore and explored that half of the Island then the other half on the North Shore and explored that half. we did 8 days. if you are only going for 3 or 4 days i would recommend staying in the middle like maybe in Poipu - you could explore everything from there! Not sure, still in the wee stages of planning But any thoughts you have to share are appreciated are you into big hotels or small places? what do you want to do while you are there and i will give you some good ideas! Kauai is like Eden - it is really cool!
  11. Quote: Originally Posted by Erika J Oh, I am just starting to plan my honeymoon for June in Maui and Kuai! Def gotta subscribe to this thread, since eating is one of my fav vaca activities! Erika!!! we honeymooned on Kauai - loved it where are you staying? any ideas yet?
  12. Quote: Originally Posted by vdaybride Erica, thanks for your input, but you forgot to say THANKS, for the hearty congrats I gave you!! lol i have to butt in - are you kidding or serious?
  13. Quote: Originally Posted by Woodsylou i think those replies are quiet harsh. she was just asking. as a relatively newbie myself sometimes you're not 100% sure what to do. Quote: Originally Posted by Woodsylou no i know, but i just think parts of it were worded slightly harshly. sometimes as a newbie on a site, and this is a BIG site and it's full of fabulous useful stuff, but sometimes you don't really know how to work it. i just think they could of said something like 'unfortunately we can't have multiple threads on the same subject, if you go to xyz it tells you how to search and that might help, good luck' something like that you know? i just think " have a newborn at home as well...AND a 2 year old and i run 2 businesses. we are all busy. use the search feature this topic has been discussed at length. thread closed." is a little blunt and harsh. but that's just my opinion. Woodsylou, that is why we have a welcome email before you ever get access to the forum that tells you to READ THE RULES and FAQ! it is not on us to hand hold and teach every new member how to work the forum when all you have to do is actually read the rules that are pointed out in like 50 places. Alyssa
  14. Quote: Originally Posted by primandpixie Alyssa, congratulations on your new business! We wish you the best of luck and look forward to watching you grow. Thanks Ladies!!!! P.S. I love your new website ---- For anyone that is interested in doing the *mail in* i wanted to give an idea of what kinds of stuff you can sell bracelets / necklaces (broken or not) charms / charm holders rings high school rings brooches cuff links single earrings / earrings the list goes on and on! i got an envelope yesterday from a bride to be with a bunch of "old junk" as she put it from high school and her aunt. she guessed it would be worth about $150. i called her as i was weighing and testing it all and let her know she had a check for $580 coming to her! she FREAKED out and was crying b/c she said she needed the down payment of $500 for the photog and didn't think she would have it till next month.
  15. that is a great offer! i used Prim & Pixie for my Passport Invites and they did an amazing job
  16. very cool Tammy - do you think they will selling in stores in the near future?
  17. Quote: Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek Hey girls. Just wanted to let you know that i had a party recently with Alyssa and was amazed how much money i made. I sold one of Dh's old necklaces and a bunch of my jewelery from high school and early college. Stuff i havent worn in about 10 years and will never wear again. I thought that maybe we would make $250. We made over $1,100 on stuff we will never wear. I was so happy. So if your holding on to your old class ring, gold name tag necklaces, etc i say sell them and get some money for them to buy stuff you could actually use. Especially since all the holiday sales will be coming up, you could a lot of bang for your buck. Thanks Danielle! It is so true girls - people have no idea how much this old "junk" is really worth and freak out when they find out! it's really cool!!!
  18. Hi Everyone! We are offering a Holiday Special which is to allow people to mail us in their jewelry for an assessment of value instead of having to have a party. So many of our clients are looking to make extra money this Holiday Season and aren't sure they can pull together a party b/c of schedule committments around the Holidays / Holiday Events. I just updated the very first post of this thread but email alyssa@prettypennyparty.com for details on how / where to send your stuff and how the process works if you are interested! Thanks Everyone, Alyssa
  19. Thanks Yolanda! and please ALWAYS do a search before posting threads like this.
  20. Quote: Originally Posted by finzup Would love if if BDW could implement some sort of feedback mechanism for sellers/buyers.. Even if it's something like a subforum for feedback instead of an integrated system that tracks feedback.... It would be very beneficial for sellers (to establish themselves as trustworthy) and buyers (to trust the sellers).. just an idea. Quote: Originally Posted by Jennybell1 That would be a great idea if it was possible. Something like how Ebay shows the feedback. Is this something the forum can do or has looked into in the past? As Carly said this is a wedding planning and information sharing forum NOT Ebay. Also remember that most people who sell wedding stuff do so 1 or 2 times - there are not many "repeat" sellers. Unfortunately, you all need to assume all personal risk when deciding to buy or sell anything. thanks, bdw mods
  21. Quote: Originally Posted by Tammy Host Hey Ladies, It has been reported by a few members that their transactions did not go smoothly. Some of the problems that are occuring are: 1. dress arrived with a stain on it 2. seller never sent out items 3. buyer never sent out payment Please do your own due dilligence when participating in a transaction in this forum. The forum and its moderators do not mediate or share any of the responsibility for transactions gone awry. this is posted at the top of the forum: It is best to try to be smart in the situation. Ask many questions regarding the condition of the property, when you will receive it, what happens if the item received was not as advertised, you did not get item in a timely manner, etc. Do NOT send check or cash. use paypal so you at least might have a chance at recovering your funds if you do not receive the items. any other tips? Great Thread Tammy!!! Also ladies i suggest taking a look at the post count / profile of the member who is selling stuff. If they haven't been around very long or only have a few posts - that is a red flag right there. Good Luck!
  22. Welcome and please be sure to read our VENDOR RULES. Thanks, BDW Moderators
  23. ladies the mods have been seeing some huge siggy's with too many pictures, tickers, etc. please know that we will NOT be sending warnings as we just delete them. if you have not already done it - check your signature and update / delete appropriately. thanks, bdw mods
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