Is it too late to plan an AHR??

[PurpleUnicorn]

Our wedding is April 19th 2011.  Invitations were sent out a few months ago.  I had my bridal shower in december when i was home for the holidays and pretty much never told anyone that we would do an AHR because I was never planning to.  The reason i was never planning to was because my fiance and I moved from east to west coast for my internship last summer and we may stay here another year.  So basically we will see some people in Jamaica for our wedding in April, then come back to the west coast.  I am wondering if we visit home/east coast in the summer, would it be too late to have an AHR reception then?   Like in July or August?   It would be pretty informal since we won't have money for anything fancy, but at least could do a slideshow of our pro pics. 

 

I basically gave up on the idea of an AHR but since more and more people are declining coming to Jamaica, including one of my bridesmaids and FIs sister.....I am kind of wishing we were having an AHR.

 

What do you think?  Would it be weird now to spread the word that we are potentially going to have one?

[Brandy]

No, I wouldnt think so, we havent sent our invites yet for our AHR and the only ones that really know we are having it are the ones coming to the DW, I plan to send out our AHR invites at the end of Feb. and we are having it on April 16th, but if you are going to have one, I would get started right away, especially with finding a venue for the date you want.

[Avens]

 This is what I'm thinking to, we're getting married in January, but I'd like to have an informal type AHR in the summertime (mostly so we can do it outside instead of during freezing Canadian winters!).

[PurpleUnicorn]

 

 

Originally Posted by Avens 

 

 This is what I'm thinking to, we're getting married in January, but I'd like to have an informal type AHR in the summertime (mostly so we can do it outside instead of during freezing Canadian winters!).

 

i asked someone i work with, at first she said she would think doing an AHR 3 months after the wedding would be weird and could be seen as a gift grab. But when i explained it would be very informal, like backyard BBQ kind of thing, not an actual wedding reception, she said it was fine if i called it "celebration of  marriage"

[Lizk23]

I don't think that's too late at all, especially because you live on the other side of the country so you only have so many opportunites to take time off and travel.

I think if you want to have a reception you should for sure do it, it's a part of your celebration of getting married!

[mochamakes3]

According to proper etiquette, I believe you are allowed up to 6 months for AHR. Obviously it is very dependent on schedules. We are planning to have one, but don't know where or the style. I wanted casual just to make his family comfortable but have a feeling my mom will be disappointed if it's too informal. My mom didn't want me to have a traditional shower in my hometown because it would look like a gift grab if we had everything there. So, we had one in our town for my friends and the AHR will be more family. One person that declined our DW did note that they would travel to the AHR if we had one.

[PurpleUnicorn]

all, you gals are convincing me!

 

i am wondering though since my wedding is in less than 3 months and by the time my wedding comes i will NOT know when i will be in my hometown.  is it weird to only annouce it AFTER the wedding?  i think it is.

 

i am thinking i should put a note on our wedding website (and send a message out from our website since i highly doubt people actually check for updates)  that we will be planning an AHR in the summer, but cannot yet give  a date as we don't know our schedule yet.  i'll mention that it will be casual and the point will be to celebrate with all those who could not make it to the DW.

 

any other ideas for how to do this?

[MrsMcGhee2B]

Our AHR is going to be at least a couple of months after the wedding.  We're in the process of renovating/enlarging my fiance's home and want to have the AHR there. Our wedding is in April and the house won't be finished until June. We know our out of town family will want to see the house, so we've decided to wait until we have a good idea of when all the work will be completed before setting a date.

[PurpleUnicorn]

so how do you plan to go about telling everyone?  Will you tell them before April that you are planning an AHR, but don't know the exact date yet?

 

 

Originally Posted by MrsMcGhee2B 

Our AHR is going to be at least a couple of months after the wedding.  We're in the process of renovating/enlarging my fiance's home and want to have the AHR there. Our wedding is in April and the house won't be finished until June. We know our out of town family will want to see the house, so we've decided to wait until we have a good idea of when all the work will be completed before setting a date.

[MrsMcGhee2B]

We've let our family and close friends know the plan because we've begun gathering dates that key folks aren't available.  We're just planning on sending out invitations once we have the date set.