Would you think this is weird? *update #17 (wedding 10/02/09)

As some of you may know, we had to cancel our Bermuda wedding due to wedding planner drama. We are now having our wedding here at home, and have booked an amazing venue for the ceremony and reception. Our reception will be held in the cocktail room of the venue, which seats about 100-125 guests. We are only having 80 people total. We couldn't use the ballroom because it seats 250 and we would look lost in there. So, because we are in the cocktail room (which is still huge) the tables are smaller and seat anywhere from 2-6 people at each. Because there are so many tables, we aren't doing table numbers and place cards. Does that seem weird? Also, we are doing our group pics before the ceremony,and just the 2 of us after. We were going to be announced in halfway through the cocktail hour so we don't miss it (its my favorite part of a wedding!) We are not having the bridal party announced since they will already be in the room. We are also not doing a "first dance" because we are awful dancers, and don't like the idea of everyone watching us looking silly. We are not doing any toasts or speeches or the garter and bouquet toss. Are people going to think my wedding sucks? We basically want a big fun party, minus any traditional wedding stuff. If you went to a wedding like this, would you be disappointed?

no way! a wedding is your day to do what-ever-the-hell-you-want!

I've been to wedding before, and had such a great time that I didn't even realise they didn't do certain traditional elements. Not until the next day when mum asked who caught the bouquet! It was such a blast - and really reflected the couple.

I think its awful when the wedding doesn't reflect the couple. Some friends of ours are very very laid back couple, been engageged for 5 years, bbq and beers friends, and at the request of parents had a really really formal wedding - and they just looked uncomfortable! and it made the guests uncomfortable too.

I think there is nothing better at a wedding than seeing the bride and groom have an absolute blast!

Actually I think you have inspired me to cut some things too! I never even thought to cutting the first dance. we like dancing together, but are the WORST dancers in the world - we would much rather have a quietintimate moment with each other dancing then having everyone staring!

You go girl!

Who knows where I'll stop now! No cake!

I don't think it would be weird at all, just different which is good since usually weddings are all cookie cutter! Everyone will just remember how much fun they had! Good Luck!

I feel that if this is who you and your FI are, meaning your personality is carefree and non traditional, your guest know this and will enjoy the relaxed feeling of it. From the sounds of your plans it sounds like it will be loads of fun. Your day, your wedding, your way!

Sounds like you're doing everything because that's how you and your FI want it - and that's how EVERY wedding should be!! Who cares if there are no toasts, garter toss, bouquet toss etc etc! If you don't want them done, then they don't belong in your wedding! All that matters is you are celebrating with your loved ones and everyone is having a blast - which is exactly how it's going to go! Congrats!

I think what you are doing sounds perfect- nothing says you HAVE to do anything- if it's not you, don't do it!

Have a wonderful time!

I think it sounds great. You want your wedding to be fun and relaxed and your guests will get that impression and you will all party like rock stars and it will be fantastic!

You do what you and your FI think will make your day perfect!!!! It is your day!!!!!!!!!!!

No way! Pick and choose what you think would make your wedding the best it can be! I didn't do EVERYTHING and certainly changed alot. So do what makes you happy.