Chocolate Brides: Hair Question

Feelin phoney wearin' some weave is (to me) the equivalent of feeling phony wearing makeup: my skin is not that flawlessly even color, my eyes don't naturally "pop" like that and my lips are not shiny wine/ruby red. But I wear it anyway, to highlight what God gave me. And I don't feel a bit phony doing it. Weave is no different than any other accessory for me....I think black folks have given themselves, AND each other an unnecessary bad rap about "fake" hair. Its cosmetic....like earrings, eyelashes, pantyhose and everything else. If a person doesn't feel fake wearing those things, I have no idea why weave would be any different.

Natural is beautiful and all...but not for me. God created those lovely scientist who gave me chemicals and Im not tryin to put them outta business. I completely respect those who go natural though...just not for me. I know a lot of people take pride in going natural as part of respecting our ethnicity. I just have other ways of revering my heritage and there are many ways to keep hair healthy but relaxed.

If I have a relatively fresh relaxer, I can blow dry/flat iron and my hair will stay pretty straight regardless of sweat or humidity if all I'm doin with it is wearing a pony. I think most AA hair is like that. The big problem for the brides here seems to be how to keep curls from reverting or their hair from just frizzing when worn down. With humidity, the moisture penetrates black hair because it's so porous...the shaft swells and BOOM. Instant frizz. I'm not that much of a water nut, but I don't want to avoid it. I'll be in and out of it, and maybe try my hand at snorkeling for the first time...so for me, touching up my hair won't be a big deal. Again, people have to figure out how much effort they wanna put into it just like with anything else. It takes all of five minutes to heat up a flat iron and run it over your edges..not much different than combing your hair to get ready to go out in public anyway. No big to me. Like I said, I'm probably going to get a curly piece to do some quick up-do's and ponytails that will allow me to simply rinse the salt out, throw in some leave in conditioner and brush it up. Thats not a lot of effort to ME, not sure about others. I don't like cornrows even though I know thats the vacation standby for a lot of folks...just not something I wanna have my pic taken with all week long. It's an easy answer for sure though.

Let's see if I can get this to work...

So far this is my #1 pick

I wouldn't mind having that dress either, it's so fab!!! But I'm sure it's prob from someone's couture collection