Uhh Need to Vent, My FI hasn't asked his GM to be in the wedding!

So I am so frustrated! My FI has not asked his brother and Best Bud to be in our wedding yet to be his groomsmen! I have asked him a few times and he says he is waiting for the right moment and wants it to be special! Well we are 4 months out!

ok, so this is his 2nd marriage and they were in his first wedding, but come on! I asked him today and he said, I will, I will! Well, I am just annoyed and need to vent. He thinks they already know, and maybe they do, but it still annoys me that it is not finalized! They are already booked for our MX wedding and all, but I am just thinking this is so weird and I don't get it!

It just makes me feel awkward that his GM might not know they are in the wedding, what if they think, "hmm, maybe we are not." It just seems silly he is waiting for the right moment and I found the right moment over 3 months ago!

Oh! I totally know what you mean. I couldn't wait to tell my BMs and MOHs, but John is all "Yeah, I think I mentioned it to them." I think it has to do with the way guys (or at least my guy) typically plan their time together. "Hey man, wanna hang out tonight? I'm getting married. Maybe we can grab a beer afterwards."

You know guys are crazy, their bnding and stuff is totally different fom our, so he's probably just going to throw it out there at some point. Try not to stress yourself, atleast you know they are going so they just need to get attire and fall in line!

Been there! FI just asked his BM last week. He always said oh i will, i will.... he never would. Finally while his cousing (BM) was over one night I said oh Joe have you asked him yet in front of him and he said oh no, will you be my BM. I know he wanted special, but it just wasnt happening so now we're good!

LOL, I feel for you!! FI just asked his last week...wedding is the beginning of June! Quite a ways back a friend of his brothers was asking him if he was BM and his brother responded "I don't even know if I'm in the wedding!" I felt so bad but this was something I was leaving entirely up to FI! Don't get me wrong, I got on his case...but it still took months. Good luck! Hopefully he asks them soon!!

I don't know why guys do this?!?!

FI lagged on asking my last two cousins to be his groomsmen -- why? I have no idea. I even told him just to shoot em an email, but his said he wanted to ask them in person, mind you one of them lives in NY, so of course I was like...um ok. Well about 2 weeks ago he finally asked them after my many requests, thankfully both cousins were honored he asked.

But like I said, guys are weirdos, lol. What can I say, they're all the same ~ strange in their ways, but we love them regardless

I give up with them lol FI told me last night that he was going to ask someone he just met on facebook that is an ex squaddie living in cancun for a drink lol he said oh we might need another witness!! I said you f**ing what I am not paying for a meal for a bloody stranger lol

Men are just idiots really lol

it took my FI about 3 months after asking to actually get a yes out of his third GM...I kept asking, "has he given you an answer" and kept getting the "I forgot to ask again" response...this particular friend even spent a week at our house over Christmas and not once did it come up.

The kicker was when he finally said yes, he asked my FI to be in his wedding as well! Men...

Oh, by the way, when I told John about this thread, he said "What do you want us to do? Get down on one knee? Guys don't need a lot of words to get the point across."