I love my Mom, but......

How do I tell her that I only want my dad to walk me down the aisle?

When my BFF got married in October, she had both her mom and her step-dad walk her down the aisle (she is estranged from her father). Now my mom thinks that both she and my dad, who have been divorced for 15 years, should walk me down the aisle. Needless to say, they still don't get along and this trip will be stressful for me because of that. I was going to have my 9 year old son walk me down the aisle, but my dad would be totally crushed if he didn't have that honor. Anyway....

I know its my wedding and I should do what I want, but how do I tell my mom that only my dad will be walking me down the aisle without hurting her feelings? Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!

I would just be honest with her that you would just like your dad to walk you down the aisle since it's traditional. Maybe you can make up a special "job" for her to do during the wedding too. Just a thought! Good luck

That's a tough one - it's not contest for me. Both of my parents will be walking me - I would prefer just my mom, but I don't want to hurt my dad's feelings (they have been divorced for around 27 yrs!). Maybe you could do half & half - your mom could walk you half way, pass you off to your dad & he could finish the walk with you. Or maybe you could give her another job for the ceremony - are you doing a sand ceremony?? Maybe she could officiate that (I don't think the priest/judge/minister does that)? This is a really tough one - good luck!

I would explain that even though you are having a non-trad destination wedding you choose to stick with the traditional way of having your step-dad walk you down the aisle. Let her know that this is what you want and she should respect that given that its YOUR day. You can also compromise and have her walked down prior to the bridesmaids, honoring her and your FI's mother. Wish you the best!

My parents have been divorced for 26 years. They do get along very well. But, because my mom and I are so close, I knew I would have been all blubbery and crying if she walked me down the aisle. If one of us cries, the other is right behind! I had my dad walk me down the aisle and my mom did the only reading we had. It was really pretty May You Always Feel Loved ... by Sandra Sturtz Hauss, Inspirational, Motivational, Spiritual, Religious Prose, Poems, Prayers. Inspiration, Spirituality and Alternative Healing Articles, Alternative Medicine, Health, Internet Resources, SKDesigns

Both of my parents were included is special ways.

Wow, thanks for the quick responses!

This is where it gets even harder.....my mom and I are extremely close. We even work together, so I see her everyday. My dad and I don't have that same close relationship, but I do love him very much and I'm excited that he's excited to walk his only child, me, down the aisle. I don't think my mom will really mind me having just my dad walk me, but I don't know the words to use tell her. I suppose honesty is the best way to go.

We are having a sand ceremony, but I'd rather have the minister officiate that. And we aren't doing any readings or having a bridal party. Plus, I don't think she feels she needs a "special part" in the wedding. She was just assuming they'd both be walking me down the aisle. So now I just have to get the nerve to tell her. I'm sure it'll be okay. Thanks for all the suggestions!

I like the idea of having her walk my son down the aisle!

And originally, I was just going to have my son walk me down the aisle, but later realized that my dad would be so hurt if he didn't have that honor.

So now I can tell my mom that Caden (my son) is disappointed about not walking me down the aisle and I'll ask her if she'll do it. That way, it'll seem like she's doing it for Caden and not because I'd like to just walk with my dad.

Because I think if I told her, "Mom, I just want my dad to walk me down the aisle" that she'd be hurt and wouldn't want a "back up" job.

Thanks so much girls. I love the brainstorming! We're sooo sneaky, but in a tasteful way

YAY! That sounds like the perfect idea!! Great idea Danielle!!! Sounds like you're in mommy mode already!!