Jump to content

1st Wedding Argument w/ FI....


Recommended Posts

...and it better be the last!!!

 

So yesterday, Dean came to me and said that he has to invite his old co-worker (that I can't stand) to the wedding. Here' Randy:

 

-He likes to fight and instigates confrontations at bars with strangers

-He has been really rude to my bro and now my bro can't stand him

-We were at a bar once and I was having a little problem with a girl in another party and Randy walked over and farted in her face while she was sitting (I was mortified)

-In a cab ride, he suggested that he wanted to "rape" some girl who pissed him off wtf.gif

-Randy was banned from our X-mas party last year b/c he was embarassing. Dean invited him anyway and midway thru the party Randy had put the You Tube of "2 girls, one cup" on our computer and started inviting our guests to come watch it. this was the last straw.

 

Months ago when we made our guest lists I thought we were very clear that Randy was not invited. So now Dean feels like he has no say in anything regarding the wedding. On one hand I feel bad because I want him to feel like it is his wedding too, but on the other hand, Randy has no place at our wedding.

 

Am I wrong here?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Based on what you shared I wouldn't want his crazy ass there either! I don't think you're wrong, the guy is obviously abrasive and may act this way to your guests...plus he already got into it with your bro? Not a good thing.

 

Sometimes men have a higher tolerance for that bs than we do, so expect resistance, but I think if FI understands how deeply troubling this is/will be for you he will respect your wishes. Plus if he thinks it through on his own hopefully he will come to that conclusion himself, right now it may just be an impulse decision, you know? Let him have his say in some other aspect of the planning...lol Good luck :)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I don't think your wrong. That's your day and you don't want anybody F'ing it up with their nonsense. Did you ask him why he has to invite him? I would sit down and tell him how you feel and ask him to list some positive things about the guy. If he can't name any then he should really reconsider his decision.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I don't see any reason why this person needs to be at your wedding. But, I agree that you should have FI name a few positive things about him and state why he wants him to come and you can have a real discussion with FI about the pros/cons of inviting him.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I don't think you're in the wrong. But I do think you need to have a conversation about it. If this guy is THAT awful at a party, can you imagine how bad he will be for several days? And once he's there, it's not like you can ask him to leave. He's got a plane ticket; he's there for the duration.

 

Maybe you should suggest to FI to think about how his mom/grandmother/aunt/sister/etc. are going to feel when he starts behaving this way and he has to explain to them that Randy is his guest.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Quote:
Originally Posted by becks View Post
Maybe you should suggest to FI to think about how his mom/grandmother/aunt/sister/etc. are going to feel when he starts behaving this way and he has to explain to them that Randy is his guest.
This was the conversation we had last night. He even said he did not think it would be a good idea to have Randy around his grandparents. I think it's more flexing his (male) muscle than anything else. I am going to try to give him some space and he will (hopefully) understand where I am coming from. Dean is so reasonable which is why this threw me for a loop last night...
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Randy sounds like a major asshole who needs to grow up.

 

I would so not want him at my wedding. Come on.. farting in someone's face?!? Seriously?!?

 

I hope Dean realizes that inviting Randy is not going to do anything to improve your wedding.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.


  • Best Destination Wedding Sponsors



    Facebook Pinterest Google+ Twitter
  • Posts

    • Hi everyone! I have been doing lots of research on various wedding venues all around Mexico, my fiance wants a destination wedding and I am happy to have a wedding wherever so long as the vibe is right and guests are happy!  I have been seriously looking at Cabo Azul and was trying to find potential costs for them, but only found a page about their wedding costs from 2010. Does anyone have any updated information on costs / reviews they would like to share of this venue? Or advice in general, anything helps. Thanks so much, happy wedding planning to all!
    • Hello everyone, I am dreaming of a wedding in Costa Rica and was wondering if I could get any help with venues and wedding planners. I am thinking Tamarindo because a close friend of mine lives there and I've been in town more than a couple of times, she's being helpful but is at a loss when it comes to this subject really so I was wondering if anyone here had recommendations. I am not closed to other town suggestions either, if I happen to find a good place and staff somewhere else. These are the places I have so far, has anyone had any experience with any of them?  Stay In Tamarindo Luxury Villas in Costa Rica Luxury Villas Pinilla Tropical Homes of Costa Rica The Point Luxury Villa Thank you so much for your help!
    • Have you ever considered having a wedding inside a bubble? With the current global situation, many couples are looking for unique and creative ways to celebrate their special day while keeping their guests safe. A wedding inside a bubble could provide a whimsical and intimate setting for your ceremony and reception. Imagine saying your vows surrounded by a beautiful bubble filled with twinkling lights and flowers, creating a magical atmosphere for you and your loved ones to enjoy.
    • Adult only resort or not? Let's discuss the pros and cons of choosing an adult-only resort for your honeymoon. While some couples may appreciate the peace and quiet that comes with an adults-only environment, others may prefer a more family-friendly atmosphere. What are your thoughts on this? Have you had any experiences at adult-only resorts that you'd like to share? Let's hear your opinions and recommendations!
    • When it comes to planning a wedding, one of the most exciting parts is choosing the perfect wedding favours for your guests. These small tokens of appreciation are a great way to thank your loved ones for being a part of your special day and to make them feel appreciated.
  • Topics

×
×
  • Create New...