am i being unreasonable?

I am actually in the same situation, except that is my FI's BROTHER that wants to propse to his gf...so there definately will be some "thunder stealing" taking place, because their whole family will be there, and he's the youngest sibling of 7 - last to get engaged.

I said as long as it's after the wedding I'm okay with it. Just not before (which is only two days) or the day of - obviously.

I agree Nikki- very well stated.

I think many of us "married folks" have also had a moment to step away from all the planning madness and look at the big picture. You gain a far greater perspective after the fact and realize that some of your mini-planning meltdowns were ridiculous and for no reason at all other than stress and nerves. Trust me- I bet so many of you will laugh at your B2B self and have moments when you were kinda crazy. This is one of those moments- kinda crazy. LOL

I mean- if you all want to stress and freak out, by all means do so. Just thought some helpful advice talking you off that crazy ledge would be appreciated.

Wow, this is all insane, I guess I am just really laid back and super apprciative that all my family and friends loved me and my DH enought to travel on thier own $$ to share in my special DAY.

I was actually HOPING that my sister's BF would propose on the trip so badly, NEVER did I feel like it would be thunder stealing or irritating. I love them and they love me and we all want the best for each other and are not jealous of such important life moments such as deciding to spend the rest of thier lives together. I would have honestly been honored. I mean how amazing would it have been that we would both share Dreams as such a special place and at similar dates!!

It turns out they got engaged 2 weeks later at home on a quiet night. I guess some people may also consider that "not special" enough.

But I guess as a family we are all just chill and support and want the best for one another, no matter what shape/form/vacation/wedding trip it comes on.

I don't think you are being self-centered or unreasonable. I would ask him to wait till after the wedding too. I mean really, we take all this time to plan this wedding and even plan things like the bonfire and rehearsal so everyone can join in on the celebration and have it be a good time. I think its the principal of the situation and the fact is that they are there for your wedding. Yes they did spend money to be there but it was their choice. If they want to be there and vacation too it is there choice but they are ultimately there for your wedding. We all can give our opinion but it's easy for us to comment because most of us are not in your situation. I will say that if it were me, yes, of course it would bother me - would it ruin my wedding, no, not really but I would think it would be shady. I don't think you will let this take over your day and ruin your wedding events but I totally understand. In the end, just do what you want to do and go with how you feel. It doesn't matter what we say because we won't be there on your day.

Good luck and I hope all goes well on your big day! I'm sure it's going to be a blast regardless of what happens

I am an engagment product of my best friends wedding however my fiance waited until after the wedding (the next morning) to pop the question. Since I was there for a wedding I never in a million years thought he would do it then because I knew the trip was all about her.

It turns out great but it was after the wedding.........I would have felt weird if he did it before or at. Hopfully the following day is an option for him as the other brides also mentioned.

Good luck sweetie!