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#21 lbberger

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    Posted 08 October 2007 - 11:43 PM

    i had a similar dilemna and ended up going for a regular hotel. i originally wanted to get married at a resort in the riviera maya, but soon found out that most were all inclusives and pretty expensive (especially since my guests aren't big drinkers) and the other boutique like hotels were really expensive. knowing that we were going to have a reahearsal dinner, wedding reception and 2 brunches, i felt like it made a lot more sense for us to host our guests, especially since they are paying so much already to get there and for lodging. i also really want people to explore cancun, go diving and on tours and not feel attached to the hotel for the included food, although some people will want to sit at the beach with their maragrata all day.
    i just got back from my site visit and we have ended up picking a hotel in cancun, and i am so excited...for me it is perfect! and the rates are a lot better in cancun. but, it is a personal decision and you really can't go wrong...either way your guests are going to have a blast!
    remember to ask how much day passes are for your guests that stay at other hotels! good luck!
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    #22 wade2893

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      Posted 09 October 2007 - 01:46 PM

      I couldn't agree with the comments shared by most. My mom wasn't to big on the idea of a DW at all, let alone an AI. It seems they have the traditional weddings in their minds and its hard to convert them. Have you had any luck convincing her that its a good idea? Once I compared what we were spending for the DW vs. having it at home, she understood very quickly ;-)

      Of course they all say its going to cut down on the people that can attend and the gifts you receive. And I just tell her, YES, and we're ok with that, so she should be too ;-)

      Good luck.

      #23 wade2893

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        Posted 09 October 2007 - 01:47 PM

        I meant to say, I couldn't AGREE MORE with the comments shared by most. My fingers were typing too fast!

        #24 Can'tHardlyWait

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          Posted 10 October 2007 - 03:47 PM

          Quote:
          Originally Posted by wade2893
          I couldn't agree with the comments shared by most. My mom wasn't to big on the idea of a DW at all, let alone an AI. It seems they have the traditional weddings in their minds and its hard to convert them. Have you had any luck convincing her that its a good idea? Once I compared what we were spending for the DW vs. having it at home, she understood very quickly ;-)

          Of course they all say its going to cut down on the people that can attend and the gifts you receive. And I just tell her, YES, and we're ok with that, so she should be too ;-)

          Good luck.
          I recently found out that when we announced the DW idea, one reason FMIL was against it was that she was mad people would feel like they don't have to give the same amount of gifts. The kicker is she wasnt worried about us, she was pissed that she had spent all this money going to her friends' childrens' weddings... weddings bring out the best in people.

          #25 boscobel

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            Posted 10 October 2007 - 05:26 PM

            See, I don't even understand that. A wedding is a wedding. I give gifts according to my level of involvement with the people getting married, not based on the amount of money they spent. For instance, I give my BF's $xxx, as a standard. Then other friends always receive $xxx. I don't give more just b/c someone had it at a reallllly nice place or less b/c someone had it at the local banquet hall. So I am not really concerned with the level of gifts received - we will receive what people feel they want to give. But I am not sure why people would think to give us less for a DW then for a traditional wedding. Sorry for rambling, but sometimes it just doesn't make sense!

            People just don't understand a thing about DW's! (Honestly, I don't think I did before either!!)


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            Originally Posted by Galit
            I recently found out that when we announced the DW idea, one reason FMIL was against it was that she was mad people would feel like they don't have to give the same amount of gifts. The kicker is she wasnt worried about us, she was pissed that she had spent all this money going to her friends' childrens' weddings... weddings bring out the best in people.


            #26 addisonreed1113

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              Posted 12 February 2008 - 08:28 AM

              I was pressured out of an AI resort by some of my family members because everyone's initial assumption that it's too expensive for the guests and that the guests would feel like they are paying for the wedding food/drink. After being on this forum I wish I had stuck to my guns!!!! I am very happy with what we're doing now, but I still wish I hadn't been pressured....don't give in!
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              #27 tlomlad

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                Posted 19 February 2008 - 08:17 PM

                yes she will get on board as it gets closer

                #28 jajajaja

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                  Posted 19 February 2008 - 09:02 PM

                  Your mom just has the old school mentality. As others have pointed out, a guests attendance is not required. They have the option of choosing if this works for them and declining if it doesn't.

                  Just because something is an AI it doesn't mean it's cost free either. We are having a welcome dinner at our AI and still have to pay $30 per head for the dinner. You will still pay for the guests meals if you choose to do a private event.

                  Your guests will thank you if you go for an AI. All my guests keep saying that they love the fact that everything is already paid for. No hidden costs so they can have a worry-free trip.
                  Happily married since 2008

                  #29 JenniferSS

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                    Posted 19 February 2008 - 09:49 PM

                    One other item about AI vs non AI.

                    It seems like almost every family has a set of relatives or friends that are better off than the rest and then there are also the show off's who like to throw the money around. An AI levels the playing field, everyone receives the same package of activities, food & beverages. It makes everyone feel more comfortable and thus have a better, relaxed time!

                    TA Jennifer

                    #30 jajajaja

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                      Posted 21 February 2008 - 03:11 PM

                      Quote:
                      Originally Posted by TA Jennifer
                      One other item about AI vs non AI.

                      It seems like almost every family has a set of relatives or friends that are better off than the rest and then there are also the show off's who like to through the money around. An AI levels the playing field, everyone receives the same package of activities, food & beverages. It makes everyone feel more comfortable and thus have a better, relaxed time!

                      TA Jennifer
                      Good point. No one has to feel left out as the other guests with more money are ordering better food/alcohol etc.
                      Happily married since 2008




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