Anyone getting married first and not telling guests?
Posted 23 January 2010 - 12:55 PM
I am wondering if anyone else is getting married prior to going to the DR. We have decided to get the Renewal of the Vows and save the paper work by getting married here first.
Is there any way to trick our guests, we DO NOT want them to know about this -- they are flying all the way there to see us be married, so I would feel awful.
I would love to hear any advice on how people have pulled this off, or are going to!!
Posted 23 January 2010 - 02:17 PM
i am a terrible secret keeper, so it will prove to be a challenge!!
your guests might catch on when you don't sign the registry while you are there.
i think i will just say we did the "paperwork' at home, and not actually say "we got married" at home.....as i won't consider it an actual wedding.
Posted 23 January 2010 - 02:21 PM
I was laid off and in desperate need of health insurance, so my fiance and I said "why not?"
Posted 23 January 2010 - 02:49 PM
I don't think anyone is going to notice if you don't mention something regarding the ceremony, so I don't think you'll have to trick anyone.
Posted 23 January 2010 - 07:57 PM
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Posted 23 January 2010 - 08:08 PM
I don't feel i am tricking anyone... I am having a ceremony and reception in Mexico, and what more can they ask for.
Posted 23 January 2010 - 08:44 PM
Posted 23 January 2010 - 10:07 PM
But im curious about the process? I guess I change my name after mexico? So I dont have to apply for a new passport before hand?
Posted 23 January 2010 - 11:01 PM
Posted 24 January 2010 - 12:17 AM
Thanks for the ideas - I have to figure out how much time in Ontario you need to get the license and certificate done. My parents will know, but that's it, not sure what to do about witnesses since I don't think you can use parents as a witness.
Posted 24 January 2010 - 12:26 AM
I felt really guilty about this initially, but we didn't exchange rings or walk down the aisle with my Dad.. saw each other all day and honestly I didn't even dress up for it... I tried not to make it very special to alleviate my guilt.
We will be celebrating the 20, not the 15 as our anniversary date as well.
I still was totally nervous on the 20, cried going down the aisle til my Dad kept stepping on my dress, etc.
We just said to anyone who asked about it being legal that we already signed papers with the WC/judge and had my BIL & SIL as our witnesses b/c there happened to be there.. then we did lie and say we were getting everything translated when we got home.. I even had a girl on our plane come up to me at the airport and give me her card because they are in the translating/notarizing business.. I told her to advertise here!
Anyways, I started to ramble ... hope this helps
Posted 24 January 2010 - 01:27 AM
So that's good to know that someone else managed to pull it off!
So you only had to go a few days before you left? Was that for the license or the certificate? I am still confused over that, leaving it to the FI to look into!
Posted 28 January 2010 - 01:39 AM
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Posted 28 January 2010 - 09:31 PM
While we were asking questions she did mention that if we got married here first "secretly" and then just have a renewal of vows there, keep it hush hush and no one would know the difference except for us and our witnesses.
I'm seriously thinking about it. My only question right now is if anyone has done this before, what's the ceremony like and can you actually tell the difference that's it's a renewal instead of the actual ceremony.
Posted 29 January 2010 - 09:55 AM
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