I feel like no one is coming to the wedding...
Posted 27 September 2008 - 04:18 PM
Posted 27 September 2008 - 04:29 PM
Posted 27 September 2008 - 04:30 PM
Also, when I felt the same way & was complaining to my mother, she made me realize that the people that were coming, were the people who I should be thankful for. They made the sacrifice & that should show me how much they cared. I was spending so much time worrying about those that were'nt coming, that I forgot how special those that did come were!
So, again, you'll be fine. Don't worry about those who can't come, backed out, whatever. Think about all the wonderful memories you'll have of your wedding day, spent with friends & family who matter the most. And a group of 20 is much more intimate & manageable than a group of 40-50! I don't know what I would've done if I had to keep up with & entertain 50 guests instead of 30.
Posted 27 September 2008 - 05:26 PM
Also, I think something that you have to realize is that many of your guests who can't make it aren't doing so because they don't love you, it's usually because they simply can't. Whether it's money, or work or something else in their life, you can't expect them to drop their priorities (or fears!)!
Enjoy your day with your new husband, that's all it's about!
Proud Mama to Evelyn Eileen since June 8, 2010
Posted 27 September 2008 - 06:08 PM
My FI's family is all overseas (he is from Australia) so most of them (or maybe all of them) won't be able to come.
Sometimes I am totally happy with the idea of a small intimate wedding but it does bother me sometimes that certain people won't be able to attend!
Keep your chin up - it will be a special day no matter what and like everyone else has said, it's you and your FI's day!!
Posted 27 September 2008 - 06:30 PM
We are months off and I have to say i'm not bothered if no-one else comes like everyone else has said its about you and FI no-one else
Posted 27 September 2008 - 06:33 PM
Posted 27 September 2008 - 06:45 PM
| Originally Posted by Kelly C |
But trust me I understand one of my Bm backed out last week because she was having a affiar with my photographer and me and her husband just found out. So no wedding goes with out a litlle drama.
And yes, unfortunately we all go through this. You just never can tell with these types of things... Like, we have 23 RSVPs but only about 10 or so people have actually booked either their airfare or hotel so there's no telling...
~ Jaime & Martin ~
"Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"
We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!
We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!
Posted 27 September 2008 - 09:19 PM
A lot of girls said it already ...less people = less work = you get to have more fun! Fun is what you should have on your wedding day. It is a life event that you will want to be able to savor every minute of!
Posted 27 September 2008 - 09:52 PM
Posted 28 September 2008 - 06:09 PM
He reminded me that as long as the two of us were there and we were happy that is all that matters. Besides he told me our partnet and your sister and her family are coming and that is all we need, anyone else is a bonus!
Now I know why he loves me so much! Keep your head up, you will be surprised how many people you will have, we grew from 10 to 25 in like two days!
Posted 28 September 2008 - 07:58 PM
And remember that you and h2b will be the centre of attention, no one else!! you'll be enjoying yourself soo much you won't have time to think about the people who couldn't make it!
We thought about our destination wedding choice alot before announcing it, and decided we were only inviting family, because we knew some friends wouldn't be able to afford it, and figured it was more important to us to have our family there only. We initially said to everyone we would have a party when we came back for everyone to be part of the celebration who couldn't make mexico, we even put it on the save the dates. But now we are having second thoughts, because most of the family seem to be coming.
Your wedding is what you make of it, remember that girlie and it will be great!
Posted 29 September 2008 - 04:59 PM
Posted 29 September 2008 - 06:16 PM
my "matron of honor" is definitely not coming. got that news the other day. i can't lie to you and say i didn't cry for a few hours over it, but in the end, i know everything will turn out exactly the way it was meant to.
Posted 29 September 2008 - 11:44 PM
Posted 30 September 2008 - 03:58 PM
On the flip side the people who are coming are extra special!
Posted 30 September 2008 - 04:11 PM
Posted 30 September 2008 - 05:46 PM
Posted 11 October 2008 - 11:25 PM
Someone else mentioned bagging the whole DW idea and turning it into our honeymoon. Just get married at the JOP (as we were planning to do anyway) and go to Mexico by ourselves. Would our guests be out what they paid for their flights?
If we keep the DW plan, I have a serious question, what happens when there are so few guests? Do you even have a reception? Or is it more like dinner at a table for 6? Has anyone experienced this?
Sorry for being so long winded-I'm just feeling a little frustrated and disappointed.
Posted 12 October 2008 - 03:18 AM
i would have to say, dont sweat it! the small weddings ive shot, were the best to me because more time to focus on AMAZING romantic pics! and more money left over for a better photog, decor and dress too. i didnt even have a wedding, we got married at the courthouse. every couple and their life story is so different. our families happen to be so broken, it would not been a joy to of had them around to be honest. i would like to have a vow renewal some day on the beach in the sand, but for me personally, id rather be without the stress of all the hupla. being a photographer, i attend weddings all the time and can sometimes be a little envyous (like 1% of the "wonderful" people around but its our love and handful of super close true friends and close family members that matter to us most anyway. you can always have a reception with more people when you get back too:) not sure if that helped, i hope so. you know what too? people are just so freaked about the economy too, so i think its just the timing, not unpopularity:)